Support for the Busy, Depleted Woman who Wants to Evolve
Hi Michelle, I am a married mom of 2. It’s been about a year and half that I started my spiritual journey. I feel I am going at such a slow pace though. It seems so desperately slow. I am the sole supporter of my family………..I work 10 hour days, 4 days a week. And when I’m home I feel I am so busy with errands, appointments, kids, etc. I have no time for myself, for my spirit. Funds are scarce so I cannot sign up for any of the wonderful spiritual events I come across. I do not feel my husband is very supportive, but then again maybe it’s just me, maybe it’s just my ego. I wish I had an answer………….Maybe you can help me. I know I need to work on myself, I just don’t know how. Thank you.
In love and light, Evelyn
Hi Evelyn,
Thank you for sharing your story. With having 3 kids in the span of 18 months, I very much understand your dilemma. I also know from experience there are absolute measures you can take now. I’ll give you two to begin with:
1. Shift Your Power Back to You! When people write in for support, I often share that there is a victim lurking in their story. You too have been caught by your ego but don’t worry, we all go there! With every victim story, it isn’t that you don’t have justification for feeling like you do. The problem is that from the victim standpoint you don’t have power. The truth is you do have power.
The easiest step I ever took was putting myself at the top of the list. It really is simple. You write your normal “to-do” list out and you put your own need/desire first. When you implement this you will find two things.
A. You have the tendency to get more done than you normally would because you are happier, more present, and less stressed.
B. Whatever you don’t get done won’t seem that important.
Doing this simple step will change your life because your actions state that you matter!
2. Listen, Honor and Act on Your F.E.E.L.ings! Although you don’t share your emotions in your story, I can sense how you feel. I sense frustration and resentment toward your husband and all the responsibilities you carry. I sense you feel alone and lost – leading you to feel sad that you aren’t able to move forward with your life as you would like.
I have GREAT news for you, because your feelings are present to guide you through this situation. What this means is that how you are feeling is spot-on accurate, when you shift your understanding of your emotions from the emotional stone-ages to F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love! When you learn how to F.E.E.L., you understand that your frustration is due to you doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
If you listen to your frustration you will hear two stories. One is the ego’s story, the other is coming from your essence. Your ego’s story will keep you stuck blaming your husband and focusing in on his short-comings. When you listen to your essence ( this is your true self, which has innate wisdom), you will find your frustration is wanting you to notice there is another victim story.
You are catching onto this because you suggest that your ego is involved. It isn’t that you are wrong about your husband not supporting you. If that is how you feel, you are correct. Where your ego comes into play is in not being able to see how you set up your relationship to be this way. Your frustration is telling you there is a new way to relate to your husband to create true intimacy and partnership. Your first step is to share how you are feeling with your husband from the place of love, inner knowingness and power toward yourself. This will come across much differently than what our egos have us do which is whine, nag or walk away.
If you aren’t sure how to act on your frustration through love, consider investing in the F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program. Investing in yourself will shift your sense of abundance because you are claiming your worth. The bottom line is to get affordable support because having a life that feels filled with love, joy and fulfillment is worth it! Go to http://www.michellebersell.com/feel/ for more information.
Your sense of feeling stuck Evelyn is to let you know that you have to get out of the ego and make changes that support your essence. Now is the time. Don’t give up on you!
I wish you emotional abundance as you move forward on your journey!
The Shopping Game – A Fun Guide to Conscious, Abundant Spending
Given that my birthday is in October and cool weather is coming in quickly where I live, I usually end up doing a bit of shopping to update my fall/winter wardrobe. Shopping is something that I have a lot of fun doing, especially as I have learned to do it consciously. In fact, I have so much fun, I have a developed a game to make shopping be what it should be – purchases that enhance your Spirit rather than weigh or deplete your Essence! My friend encouraged me to share this game, as it really does allow you to stay aligned with your Authentic Self as you shop without either negating your Essence’s desires or your sense of abundance.
Unless you are a Freegan, who are people who opt out of consumerism altogether by dumpster diving (very noble, but not for me at this time), shopping can bring up challenges.
You will feel challenged when you:
- Only buy what you need rather than what you want
- Struggle with what you feel you deserve to have versus what you can afford
- Feel weighted down because you over-spent
- Fight with guilt afterward even though you didn’t over-spend
- Buy things you never use (especially because it was a good deal)
At one point or another, I have done all of the above, so I know firsthand how any one of the above will make you imbalanced. The above challenges occur when your sense of abundance and worthiness are reacting in an unhealthy manner. Although there is not enough room to get into the depth of this topic here (more to come in the near future though!), the shopping game is a way to find health and consciousness all in one.
What is best about this game is that it can be applied to whether you are shopping at a grocery store, thrift store, or department store. The bottom line is that abundance really isn’t about how much something costs. Abundance is how you feel.
Here is how the game is played:
- Before setting out shopping, determine what you are willing to spend
- Go into any store and don’t look at the prices
- Gather the items that catch your eye (again, no price peaking)
- Determine whether you: A. Need and love the item B. Love but there is no need C. Fits a need but don’t love D. Entices you but don’t love
- Automatically get rid of Category D items above (entices you but don’t love). This is shopping that will leave you empty. Even though a part of you is saying, there is some value you don’t have a strong enough reaction to justify the purchase. (Common traps are you look good in it but don’t love it, you like that is was produced consciously etc… are not enough alone to justify spending).
- Start with category “A” items (those you need and love) and ask yourself what you are willing to pay for that item, in terms of what you feel the item is worth and in which you would still feel good spending.
- Now look a the price A. If the price you are willing to pay is more than the price tag and it is a category A item, this item is now a probable purchase B. If the price you are willing to pay is less than the price tag, put the item back C. Repeat the process with the categories B and C
8. Go back to step #1, what you are willing to spend. Highest ranking goes to those in category A and even those items can be categorized.
9. If there is room for category B and C items, you may do all or one of the following
A. Determine if you can do without the category C item until you find one you both love and need, if not make the purchase B. Weigh if a category B item gives you both joy and a sense of value for what you are getting C. If it is produced locally, sustainably, organically, recycled or fair trade, move up its ranking in a given category
**Special note: Keep an eye out for the over-active ego. You will know this is occurring if there is no room for having a need, which means there is a struggle with self-worth causing a sense of deprivation. In other words, you tell yourself something like I have perfectly good shoes, I don’t need boots (even though you live in a snowy climate). Conversely, if you feel that everything falls into category A, your ego is overactive in a different way because you are substituting your worth with items. )If you struggle with either of these scenarios, consider filling out my evaluation form for personal support, as this is impacting you in many ways outside of shopping).
This process is both fun and easy. (Trust me, you’ll get the guidelines down in one or two tries). My friends and I LOVE it when we are doing a little wardrobe update, as it keep everything in perspective. Plus, you can get each other to guess what their purchase price would be. What I think is fun is that you can fill up your dressing room. You aren’t “depriving” yourself from trying something on because of price. In the end, you will find that there is usually only one or two things that you will end up purchasing. Even better is that you will FEEL good inside and out for using your money in a way that feels good to you. Now that is abundance!
Here’s to you living emotionally conscious and exceptionally well!
Michelle
The KEY to find and/or elevate your PASSION toward life!
I often work with people supporting them to find their passion. They are frustrated not living a life that feels fulfilling and are ready to take action. Action, however, is not the answer. In fact action can be your ego’s way of keeping you away from what really needs to done to find or elevate your passion, which is taking a step away from action.
Taking a step away from action is a way to maintain or create healthy boundaries around your daily responsibilities. Doing so protects your essence from those messages of your ego and rational mind that tells you more is required of you. Your essence needs this type of protection with boundaries, so you have the freedom of non-doing.
Non-doing is what I consider going within. When you “go within,” you aren’t going anywhere. You are becoming aware of what already exists within and around you at all times. Simply stated, you are “doing” minimal.
I believe there are times when we are called to “do” minimal, as much as we are called to give of ourselves to our maximum abilities. Although your ego will have you believe that you are not accomplishing in your minimal moments, I believe those minimal periods are prime with spiritual growth and opportunity.
Your passions become clearer and more energized. You are even more attuned to your inner wisdom and guidance. You are being called to clear out what energetically is no longer needed.
Your inner process will not be deemed by others (or your ego for that matter) as accomplishing much. Energetically, however, you are setting yourself up to take that important next step that will guide you toward even greater fulfillment and passion toward life!
To get there, you must overcome the block of your ego, which can be uncovered through these questions:
- Do you hear your essence when it is calling you to do minimal or are you going at such a fast pace, you can’t even hear the call?
- Or is it that even when you do hear that call for minimal, you instead decide to push yourself to keep going at a maximum pace?
- Does the idea of going for minimal seem impossible given your responsibilities?
- What are the countless ways you create activity in order to prevent yourself from going toward minimal and what is the real fear you are avoiding?
Your ego is going to make the idea of minimal seem as if you are completely walking away from your responsibilities. This simply isn’t the truth. Your ego wants you to view minimal in very black and white terms in order to keep you in your fear mode. When you live based on any of the fear mentioned above, you are taking away your fullest expression of living a fulfilled and passionate life.
The bottom line is this:
Do you trust yourself enough to allow yourself to do minimal? If so, your essence will guide you on what your minimal will be for you given your current circumstances! This means if there is room for great degrees of minimal then that may be called for you and if not, there will still be ways to create minimal in a degree that works for your highest good. When you do trust yourself, your minimal becomes your maximum toward giving, compassion and surrender to your spiritual growth and evolution!
Of course, you know all of this deep within and this is simply a reminder of the true importance of giving in to the calling to be/do minimal. Just remember to ENJOY because soon enough you will be called back to the flow of maximum energy output toward giving and fulfilling your life’s external work. This is the flow that we call life and when you go with the flow, you are regenerated and renewed to live passionately, joyfully and abundantly in all ways!
Blessings to you always!
Why false perceptions matter
Do you ever find that people have a perception of you that isn’t necessarily true? People tend to make assumptions about you and your life base on some of the external components to your life. Do you ever find that you actually want them to believe in that perception they have about you even though it isn’t accurate? I have!
I have learned from experience, however, how something as seemingly harmless as going along with a false perception impacts you. The impact is unconscious and can have lasting impact. The reason is because when you go along with a false perception a part of you is hiding – typically hiding from your own shame and judgment.
Allow me to share a recent experience to explain this concept in more detail. Recently, I was being congratulated by someone I knew fairly well on some recent successes. They also alluded to the idea that I must be enjoying the financial rewards to my success. At that moment, I felt a slight twinge. A part of me so easily could have went with what she was saying by not agreeing or disagreeing and just move along in our conversation. No harm done right? Wrong!
What that twinge was about was the fight between my ego and my authentic self. I knew a part of me wanted her to buy into the false perception that I am currently swimming in the dough! That was exactly the problem. Because of my work with emotional consciousness, I knew this was an opportunity for me to recognize that deep within me judgment about my finances existed. I simply told her that her assumption was not the case. After our conversation finished was when my inner work began.
Utilizing the tools I teach, I began to play detective regarding what I was judging. Fortunately, I am very fine tuned to my feelings and rather than blow them off, I saw this as a gift that I wanted to claim! That is the beauty regarding your feelings because they are always available to allow you to expand and grow even more. Obviously there was more growth for me to do around this topic!
In regard to finances, I have personally grown to understand that my needs and desires are always taken care of, so that wasn’t the issue. The fear and judgment that came up was in regard to my profession. I felt shame and embarrassment around the idea that should you (meaning this community) find out about the amount of money I make, you would deem me as no longer credible. Of course, this is a projection of my own judgments. The shame is because of my own judgment that exists, even though logically I know it isn’t true. That is the thing about fears, they aren’t logical.
Even though fears are not completely logical, you will always have others that will fuel your fears. After discussing this upcoming blog with a few of my peers – coaches, business experts etc.., they told me it was career suicide for me to share my process with you. I was told that I want others to see me professionally as the image of success.
Image, however, is exactly what I believe hides us from being able to live authentically, freely and more empowered lives. I know from experience that a part of my potential would be lost should I give into the fear. So, I choose not to buy into the fear. I knew that you judge me based on the value of my content, whether it supports you to grow and evolve in your life as well, and not on any image that pretends I don’t have my own process. In fact, because I do have my own process, I feel that my experiences support me to further understand the traps and ways in which we unconsciously hinder ourselves.
The point of me sharing this with you is not about whether or not I make enough money. The point is how false perceptions can be an opportunity for you to recognize your fears. Sometimes your fears jump out. To consciously grow, however, you want to be a detective to search for what else is waiting within you to evolve away from the ego and into more of your potential.
False perceptions happen all the time because we have the tendency to want people to see us at our best. You rejoice in sharing the good and blessings that you are able to experience. You need to make sure that you aren’t hiding behind the good in order to remain distant from the judgments and fears within you.
Should you find yourself tempting to hide behind a false perception, use the experience to see how your ego wants you to buy into not being enough for where you are currently at in your life. This is how shifts begin by not needing what is false to be a part of your identity or self worth. When you no longer need the illusions of the ego, your ego can let go and make room for creating more of what you desire. I know this because I have used this process to change many aspects of my life. The work isn’t always easy but it is definitely worth doing!
Love and Gratitude for YOU!
You know when you have those moments of profound gratitude and appreciation in life? Well, this morning was one of those mornings for me and what I was feeling profound appreciation, love and gratitude was for you. I am so honored that you are a part of this community. With the information overload that we are in, you choose to get one more email, take time out of your day to open it up and read it. Thank You!
I also want to say that I honor you for the path you are on to enhance your life as well as your continued commitment to your personal evolution. No one really sees the time, effort and energy you have committed to this part of yourself and it often goes unacknowledged. I acknowledge you for choosing to expand rather than contract.
What I really feel the connection is between me and you is about expansive energy. I don’t know your face, we aren’t physically together, yet I feel a connection. Usually, I try to support people to recognize the expansive energy that is within negative emotions. After all, it is a part of our human experience that often gets ignored or contorted.
What I sensed today is a need to remember the energy of love that is hard to define, yet exists. Of course, you know it. You feel it all the time with your family, friends and nature but what about the love that has no or little physical connection. The connection we have is different. There is a small physical component as you see my emails, yet the email is not what our connection is about. We bond through experiences, feelings, thoughts and the words that celebrate or bring greater understanding to our day to day experiences. Do we dare call that energy love? I do!
I just want you to know that I feel your energy as well. I thank you for the energy, thoughts and love you send my way.
I also want to celebrate the expansive energy within you in all its forms. Today, may it be a day that you honor yourself for the energy you give to others and all of life without even knowing it. You are life affirming and it is felt!
Love is in the negative and the positive and it is just up to us to recognize it. Thank you for choosing me to be one of your humble guides, as I use my own stumbling blocks along the way to share with you the love that is within all that we feel. We are all meant to be the givers and recipients of love. The more we are open to that in our lives through all of our connections, the more love expands. Thank you for allowing my heart to expand by receiving my thoughts, feelings and energy through each email I send your way.
Wishing many continued blessings to awe inspiring you, as you continue to live emotionally conscious and exceptionally well!
The real process of making your dreams a reality
Do you ever feel weighed down, filled with self-doubt or procrastinating? Good, these are all really good signs that you are on your way to making your dreams happen! You think I am kidding, I am not. The truth is that when you go for making a positive shift happen in your life, you are going to run into some internal obstacles. The reason is that you are being called to expand and share more of yourself in one way or another.
Of course, your ego isn’t going to allow you to claim more of your authentic self and potential without putting up a fight. As you get closer to taking the next step on your path to claiming potential, you are going to run into self-doubt. These doubts are going to make you procrastinate and ultimately feel weighted down.
You would think that your goal is to try to get rid of your weighted down feelings and doubts so you can move forward, right? Wrong! Making your goal to be getting rid of your negative thoughts and feelings can set you up for an internal battle that you won’t win! You automatically lose because your energy is being wasted on your ego.
Unfortunately, the vast majority of the self-help tools currently available unknowingly guide you to focus more of your energy and beliefs on your ego rather than your inner truth and power. Your negative feelings have a more significant meaning that goes beyond the ego, if and when you learn how to let go of the ego drama.
So how do you let go of the ego drama?
SURRENDER! When you consciously choose to surrender to your ego, you aren’t engaging in the battle. Doing so consciously allows you to listen to what messages your ego is sharing with you. Now you have those messages out in the open and you see how either ridiculous or repetitive and non-serving they are. Once the ego feels it has been heard, your authentic voice will have room to share the necessary insight that will support you to move forward. Then it is up to you to choice which message is going to serve you to obtain your dream.
Rather than surrender, what most people do is try to dismiss, positive think over or rise above their ego message. Although it sounds nice, it doesn’t work. You must consciously choose if you want to do what sounds nice or what will actually support you to move forward. Doing what sounds nice in this instance is reacting based on the old-world understanding regarding your feelings. Even though you may convince yourself that your ego has diminished, it is impacting you in more unconscious ways that will keep you internally struggling and stagnant. Rather than freeing the energy of your ego, you are unconsciously empowering it while all along distancing yourself from the true insight your essence is offering you.
Ask yourself what you are afraid of when it comes to surrendering to your ego and that will tell you the power your ego still holds over you. The answer is to find internal peace and it begins by surrendering to all aspects of you! This is how you will be able to truly F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love and more profoundly open yourself to the gifts within you. When those feelings of doubt creep in, rather than weigh you down, F.E.E.L. will give you the insight you need to move forward. As you trust and follow your insight, feelings that once weighed you down shift to bring you more energy and vitality toward life. In doing so, your dreams become a reality!
It is an honor to have you join the evolution to live emotionally conscious by realizing how F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love is life changing! If you would like to know how to apply F.E.E.L. more aptly into your own life, consider my F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program at http://www.michellebersell.com/feel/ (While your ego is telling you I am selling to you, your essence knows it is my passion to teach you to hear the truth to your emotions & empower your essence. Let your essence guide you to determine if this is the support you need to move forward by trying the program risk free with a 100% money-back guarantee.)
Here’s to you living emotionally conscious and exceptionally well,
What to Do From an Emotional Consciousness Perspective When You Lose Your Cool?
Dear Michelle,
I’m having a lot of trouble creating boundaries between my sense of peace and my 13 year old son who’s exploring risky behaviors. I wondered if you could speak to that kind of challenge. I find that his behaviors send me into really unwanted tailspins. It’s fine for me to say ok detach. And I already meditate and do yoga, but then he reveals that he’s tried stealing something and wow there goes my cool. I’m looking for ways to better mediate my emotional life so I can be a solid parent to my child. I look forward to hearing your response.
Roberta
Hi Roberta,
First of all, I want to validate your reaction when you hear that your son has attempted stealing. I am sure it blew you away knowing that he is engaging in behaviors that are not for his highest good. Of course this would be upsetting to you! My bet is, however, that your reaction isn’t feeling good to either yourself or your son. So even though I understand why you lost your cool, I want to support you to move out of the reactionary ego perspective and instead gain clarity and empowerment through emotional consciousness. So whatever you do, don’t detach from your feelings! We need your emotions to understand the next steps you need to take and to improve this situation.
The good news is that your situation applies to everyone when they lose their cool. Regardless of the circumstance, when you lose your cool, the feeling you are experience is first ANGER and second likely frustration. When you learn to recognize these feelings through the lens of love (as in Feel Every Emotion as Love) you can begin to differentiate between the messages of your ego and the messages of your essence.
Your ego reacts in anger when subconsciously you believe that your power has been taken away from you. Roberta, in your case you are feeling powerless as to how to move your son away from engaging in risky behaviors.
Frustration is where “not good enough” lives and seeps in when you feel like you are spinning your wheels. Roberta, because you have likely tried different measures without success, your ego can take a hold and judge your abilities. A part of why your reaction gets so strong is because you take his behaviors and make them personal about you. Although this is common for parents, especially teenage parents, to do, it isn’t your truth.
As your anger and frustration get triggered from your ego, you are going to blow. My work doesn’t say that you have to not ever blow. Sometimes, circumstances just push enough of your buttons. Yet, you are doing yourself a disservice if you don’t understand the inner wisdom coming through to support you to CREATE CHANGE!
As I teach in much greater detail through my F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program (www.MichelleBersell.com/feel), your anger and frustration have much wisdom to share. Anger from a spiritual perspective is always about claiming your power. While frustration is present to tell you that the way you are going about doing things isn’t working and you need to create a shift back to your inner wisdom.
Roberta, your anger is present to tell you to claim the power you still have toward your relationship with your son. Although your ego is telling you that you are powerless in this situation, nothing could be further from the truth. Your son is reaching out to you when he admits that he attempted to steal. Your true power is tapped into when you look to what is triggering this for him. He is looking to you for guidance (no matter how much he may act that he is blowing off what you say) because he told you the truth!
Tap into your own experiences of feeling peer pressure to remember that you did (as well as myself and everyone else) dumb things to get others approval. Have compassion for yourself for your mistakes and use that to have compassion and understanding for him. Then from a loving place, ask him questions such as who he was with, what he was feeling like around them and allow him to begin to see the light of what is really going on within him. Your power is bringing out the truth to what is really going on rather than staying stuck on the surface issue of stealing.
Your frustration is your essence guiding you that things have to change. Put the onus back on him to what he thinks needs to be done to make a change. Don’t let him let his ego off easily. Guide him to stand up for his essence and the man that he wants to become. How can things change to support him to realize that within himself? You can support him but only he can claim it for himself.
The lesson is for all of us that when we lose our cool, we are buying into a version of ourselves and a version of reality that isn’t true. As a person on a path to live more consciously, you can take this experience (and every experience your emotions come up) to become in greater alignment with your truth and power!
Thanks Roberta for sharing your story! Glad to hear that you are already meditating and doing yoga, as those activities will support you to gain access to the inner wisdom that is within each of your feelings.
Live Emotionally Conscious & Live Exceptionally Well,
How to shift an “off” day to “on”
No one ever sets off to have an “off” day. You are just going about living your life and one thing leads to another, or so it seems. If you are on the path to living your life more consciously so you can embrace more of your potential, your work is to bring awareness to what is really going on.
What is really going on during an off day is that you likely lowered your standards. Of course you are not going to go about your day thinking “Today would be a great day to lower my standards.” So how does this happen?
Believe it or not, you are most likely going to lower your standards when you are going after something you want. You see, in your mind sometimes to get what you want, you “make exceptions.” Making exceptions is fine except when you go against what feels good and right to you. The problem is that it is way too easy to make excuses even if your exception does not feel right to you.
Take me for example. Yesterday, I had an appointment with a really well-known figure regarding his participation in the next New Consciousness Audio Series. Unfortunately, the appointment time was incorrectly scheduled and if I wanted to fit in to his very busy schedule, I needed to rearrange some appointments on my end. I knew at the time, I didn’t feel comfortable making changes to my schedule. It just didn’t feel right. Still, I did as I thought of how wonderful it would be to have him as a part of the series.
Against my better judgment of my inner guidance, rearrangements were made. And you know what? The rearrangements threw off my day.
Now for the kicker, HE NEVER CALLED!
You see it is these little instances where boundaries weaken and you can easily have no clue. After all you want to be a good person, so you think you should give people the benefit of the doubt, be compassionate etc…. What happens is then that you are likely going to blow off your contribution to the problem. You will say to yourself something like “It is no big deal.”
You are correct in that it is no big deal to the other person involved. Yet, the truth is that instances in which you lower your boundaries should matter to you.
In my case, I could have easily forgotten about it and just have my assistant reschedule with his assistant. No big deal right? WRONG!
The big deal is that how I feel going about my day matters to me. Being in flow with my work makes a big difference in my day and I don’t like feeling “off.”
What is key to remember is that this has everything to do with my actions and not his. If I would have listened to my inner guidance, this wouldn’t have impacted my day as it did. It would have been “on.”
You are going to mess up at times and not listen to your inner guidance, just as I did. If you want to remain living emotionally unconscious (like many do) you will easily blow off lowering your standards. You won’t recognize how you disregarded your inner wisdom and then you will wonder why life at times feels like such a struggle.
Living emotionally conscious, however, you can choose to recognize your part in the equation. When you do, you are living more empowered because you see how you can handle circumstances in a way that is in greater alignment with your essence.
And this, my friends, is exactly how healthy boundaries are created! It is through the times when you dismiss your boundaries that can affirm the importance of boundaries in your life.
It is just like how successful people have experienced a lot of failures prior to their success. The same holds true with your boundaries. People with healthy boundaries that supports them to live their best life have become conscious of the times when their boundaries were lax. The reason is that in both cases, you learn and grow – IF YOU ARE WILLING & AWARE!
Of course, I became aware of this instance by recognizing my annoyance, which was really just light weight anger. Utilizing my anger from an emotionally conscious state, I realized my feelings were about me claiming more of my power. Through that understanding, I claimed back my power through re-establishing boundaries that feel good and right to me.
For me, the person who blew off our appointment has nothing to do with how I felt. He was simply the vehicle of how I was supposed to remember my truth to support me as my work progresses. The stakes may become higher, but my truth remains the same. Evidently, I needed that reminder! Once I got it, my day went from feeling “off” to feeling back “on!”
You need reminders when you are on your path to grow and evolve. Your emotions are there to support you to stay on track. Choose to live emotionally conscious to embrace the power within you that will allow you to turn around an “off” day and get back “on” track to living your best life!
Live Emotionally Conscious – Live Exceptionally Well,
Want to Feel More Excitement about Your Life?
Don’t you love the feeling of excitement running through your body. You are optimistic, ready to move forward and utilize that energy within you to make things happen. This is actually the purpose of excitement – to propel you forward!
Believe it or not, your fear is the same energy as excitement. The only difference is that your ego has taken a hold of the energy and turned it into what you recognize as fear. You know the ego is involved with fear because you’ll feel weighed down, uncertain, scared, anxious or sad.
From an emotional consciousness standpoint, you recognize the true purpose to your fears. They are present to alert you that you are buying into an ego message. Congratulations – just recognizing this is a huge step forward!
Now, to transmute the fear into the energy of excitement, all you need to do is understand the underlying message of the ego.
When this happens to me, I turn to my feelings to help me uncover the truth. Nothing is better than recognizing sadness as loving guidance for you to get the clarity you need. What I love about feeling every emotion as love is that the process allows you to get very specific as to what is your vulnerable spot that the ego is trying to protect.
Your sadness supports you to gain clarity and see the truth to the matter rather than the false story of your ego. Fear is then transformed back to excitement because the energy that you have given to your ego is now reverted back to your essence. When your essence is free to do what it came here to do, you will be blown away at your ability to move mountains! That is the energy that awaits you!!
What this means for you is to begin to see each and every fear as opportunity. The opportunity is to understand where, why and how your energy is leaking toward your ego. The time has come to reclaim that energy back to serving you and utilizing your excitement to even more deeply claim what fulfills you.
The good news is that fear is a normal part to growth. I feel it all the time and I utilize my fear to support me to reach my desires. You can too!
Begin by reminding and stating to yourself of the following:
“Each time I feel fear, it is an opportunity for me to expand and own more of my personal power and truth.”
You and only you can make the decision if you are going to use fear to transform you or keep you stuck. Your fate is in your hands! Now that is something to feel excited about – you have the choice to claim all of your potential!
Live Emotionally Conscious – Live Exceptionally Well,
Michelle
My Response to a Dysfunctional Self-Actualizing Philosopher
Subject: dysfunctional self-actualizing philosopher
To: Michelle Bersell <support@michellebersell.com>
Michelle…Ok..today I own my ‘state’. I am paralyzed by my lack of confidence. I drown it in other lack – not enough knowledge, not likeable, not this not that. I drop into this pool of cement and struggle with the struggle. I know what I am doing and have winds of lightness and grace but I can’t seem to undo something that keeps me from allowing my life to shine.
I was shocked to hear a friend say to me years ago – You have a lot of self-hatred. I am thankful for this comment as I awakened to myself. I played with the programming, with energy and with knowledge. I have dramatically changed my lifepath.
It’s a new world but I am not knowing how to live in it. I yell out – ok, teach me the lesson and lessen the teaching so I can move on. Something in my programming or willingness is making me a dysfunctional self-actualizing philosopher of sorts. Debt and pounds are adding up and I am inert. Kids are feeling insecure about Mom. I am missing a link.
What do you suggest?
Jane
Hi Jane,
First of all I want to acknowledge that it takes courage to say, “Look, I have been on this personal development path for quite some time and I am still struggling.” Trust me, you are not alone. It is not your fault because the emotion piece that understands the ego, your fears and feelings from a spiritual perspective has been missing.
I know exactly where you are – been there, done that! To be frank, the missing link is you getting so tired and so damn bored of your ego’s story that you become willing to fight for your essence. I mean aren’t the stories of your ego boring to you? For how long have you been hearing the message you aren’t enough this or you are not enough that? For a very, very long time right? And where has it gotten you? How have those messages served you?
Now is the time to get ANGRY that you have bought into those messages for so long. You have to be willing to say “ENOUGH, NO LONGER WILL I BUY INTO MESSAGES THAT DO NOT SERVE ME” and then take action.
ACTION IS KEY! Anger is your power and will support you to finally claim energy on behalf of your essence to take action. Have you been using your anger from a consciousness level to tap into your internal power? What we have to be careful about being on this path is thinking, reading and taking too many courses on your personal development. Why? Because then you remain a philosopher rather than experiencing what it is you are learning about.
You have to be willing to take one step each and every day to the benefit of your essence. Even if it doesn’t make sense to your rational brain, listen to your essence. Your spirit is BEGGING YOU to TAKE A RISK. Take an honest look at what you have to lose. Your spirit is being cut off from life by how you are living. It doesn’t get worse than that!
If you continue to take risks on behalf of your essence, you guarantee a breakthrough. If you continue to listen to the voices of your ego, you guarantee yourself to remain spinning your wheels and more pain. I will say this to you lovingly because I have been exactly where you are at emotionally; There comes a time when we have to stop whining and take responsibility for our lives. Your anger from a consciousness level will help you see this. Now is your time.
Live Emotionally Conscious – Live Exceptionally Well,
Michelle
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Before I uncovered the truth to our emotions, I would become paralyzed by my feelings and fears, even though I had been professionally trained as a psychotherapist and life coach!
