The Real Meaning to Giving More Deeply

I woke up this morning with this message “Give more deeply of yourself.”  Immediately, my ego went into over-drive with my victim story.  “What more can I give.  I already have so much going on.  What more do you want from me?”  Thankfully, the loving guidance of my essence came swooping in to remind me that to give more deeply of yourself isn’t the same as doing more!

So the question was, “How could I give more deeply?”  As I took a moment to reflect, I saw how tired I have been now that the holidays are over.  When night comes, I feel wiped out.  I reflected on how some of my silly bedtime rituals of tickle bugs and other important nonsense with the kids have been cut way back.

What I was reminded of was presence.  Maybe you are like me, where you find you have moments of presence and then it slips away. Suddenly you find yourself thinking about what else is on your list of things to do.  Rather than stay in the moment, you find your mind going off into some other place.

Others of you may rarely find presence if you are like I was, an ultimate multi-tasker.  As a parent, I found it challenging not to try to do twenty things at once.  There is so much going on at once that you become good at juggling or sink.  Many of you may feel like that is also the reality of your job as well.  This is where you get addicted to living at a pace that keeps you away from your presence.  Then you find yourself in those rare spare moments that you have, checking your email rather than just being present.

This is why it is important for all of us to ask in each moment “Am I giving deeply of myself?”  In other words, are you fully in the moment?  Are you playing full out in the everyday components of life?

Don’t forget about yourself either.  Are you giving deeply to yourself as well?  Are you listening to your needs?  Are you listening to your feelings and how they are loving guiding you?  This is where many fall short.  You simply aren’t willing to give yourself this loving attention because your ego had you believe there is too much other components to your life that need your attention.  What you are really saying to yourself is that your needs are not that important.

Now ask yourself this, if your needs aren’t that important, can you really be present?  You can’t. If you can’t be present, you really can’t truly give of yourself as you desire. Your needs are going to find some way to be addressed, unconsciously or consciously.  If your needs must find an unconscious way to be met, you will find your efforts being sabotaged.

This is part of the transformation that is occurring this year, to let go of old habits that keep us away from living more fully connected to ourselves.  You give more deeply when you are fully present with yourself first.  Being present with yourself is what allows you to be fully present with others.  This is how we truly and deeply connect.  It is through present connection that you tend to find the fun just by truly being where you are.

You have so many gifts and so much love to give!  Allow your emotions to guide you back to your truth. Your truth has huge plans for you!  What you are hearing allows you more fully understand your essence, which in turn, supports you to truly share of yourself.  You can be more open, more exposed, and more vulnerable.  In doing so, you will find yourself more deeply able to give in ways that bring you the joy and fulfillment your heart craves!

Here’s to you giving of yourself more deeply!  Please share the ways that arise within you to share of yourself in this loving and generous way below.  By giving of yourself through sharing, your heart may inspire another to give more deeply in the same way!

With love and appreciation for your giving heart -

Are You Ready to Lessen Your Load?

So many times it can be your mind holding you back.  You can have this sense of how your responsibilities should be taken care of that you probably don’t think twice about.  Because these are many of your day to day tasks or work responsibilities, you just do what you have to do to get them finished and off your plate.  How you are feeling about these responsibilities can be a great gift if you are willing to listen.  The initial response may be that you are exhausted and just want to fly yourself off to an isolated beach for a month.  I know this feeling and all this means is that you need some time for you to just be and let yourself off the hook.  Here are some examples of the shifts that can occur if you allow yourself to take a break – guilt-free:

• Your energy will be renewed, giving you greater passion toward fulfilling your responsibilities
• Without all your busy-ness, you have more room for ahh-ha moments to approach your responsibilities differently – or better yet give them to another capable pair of hands!
• You will feel more playful and creative when you do go back to taking care of your responsibilities
• You will gain compassion for yourself as you see how weighed down you get when taking your responsibilities too seriously.  They are important but not at the cost of your health and well-being.

Action: What are you tired of doing?  Ask yourself why you are still doing it?  If it is based on a fear (one common one is what will other people think? They will think I am incapable, incompetent, messy, lonely etc… or I can’t ignore X. If I don’t do X, I won’t be successful, have a job, make money, etc …), you are leaking your energy.  What that means is that there is a better way because your fears are running you.  You have to determine if you can live authentically enough in order to allow your truth to be revealed.  If you don’t, you will live your life being only semi-satisfied or worse yet – completely depleted.  With your energy leaked you won’t have time to attend to what fulfills you or feels passionate to you.  You simply won’t have the energy.  Although it can be scary to listen to what is inside you, it is always leading you to live a life that brings you greater joy, fulfillment and success!

**Remember – you will be okay if you don’t get to that load of laundry, your kids will survive if you feed them icecream for dinner one night, and your business will not fail if you don’t respond back until 36 hours later rather than the 24 hour frame you are always trying to achieve!

If you would like further help with lessening your load, contact me at michelle@michellebersell.com to schedule your consultation.