You’re in a relationship that feels soul-contracted but also exhausting. You’re left wondering: is this supposed to be this way? Or you meet someone who sees straight into your soul and think “this is it,” only to feel like you are butting heads to get your basic needs met.
So what’s going on?
Soulmates vs. Divine Union
Soul mates recognize each other’s essence from past lifetimes. This soul-level recognition feels like coming home. But here’s what nobody tells you: just because your souls know each other doesn’t mean your human relationship will work.
Where soulmates get stuck is trying to fix or guide their partner back to their truth. You can feel their potential, so you try to help them remember. It always backfires. Why? Because you can’t control whether their human self will choose to remember their soul’s truth.
Divine union is different. It’s about radical responsibility for yourself first. You’re so centered in your truth that you know you’re okay with or without this person. Your relationship with your Divinity comes first. This creates less conflict because there’s less bending and contorting. When issues arise, you maintain alignment with your Sacred Self while holding space for your partner’s truth too.
The Key Difference: Emotional Alchemy
Your emotions aren’t the problem. Your mind is. Your mind is making up stories about yourself and your partner that in most cases aren’t doing your relationship any favors. Most people focus on emotional release—getting calm so you’re not reactive. But you can be calm and still blame your partner internally.
Emotional alchemy is different. It’s guiding you on how to take radical responsibility for how your emotions guide you back to your soul’s truth. If an emotion arises in you, your soul has guidance for you—not about fixing your partner, but about living in alignment with your own truth.
My Soul Comes First
In the early stages of my relationship before I married my husband, I was clear: I could make human adjustments but not at the expense of my soul’s truth. My soul came first. I remained open-hearted and shared what works for me, then let go of whether he could meet me there. If not, it wouldn’t make him flawed—just not right for me.
Sometimes a partner’s trauma keeps them locked into themselves, unable to attend to the partnership’s energy. That’s their free will choosing individual healing. Your responsibility is using your emotions to know when that aligns with your growth and when it doesn’t. You have to be willing to witness their truth without making them wrong for it.
All Forms of Love Are Valid
Divine union is miraculous, but you can find fulfillment in many types of relationships. The divine is so expansive it wouldn’t limit how love can be experienced. Your heart knows what it truly wants. Your emotions are constantly guiding you back to your sacred truth—back to the love you are, the love you deserve, and the love you’re blessed to give.
While your mind makes this complex, your heart knows the way.
Warmly,
Michelle
PS: If you are ready to learn how to utilize your emotions as Sacred Allies, join my free Emotional Alchemy of the Heart class and receive my Emotional Empowerment Guidebook that shares the Emotional Alchemy Framework.