I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how I can better serve you. How can I be a better leader when it comes to our emotional well-being?
The answer I received was to share with you how I apply F.E.E.L. in my life – in the moment. I just feel it is about time a leader in emotional well-being leads by showing you how to address your negative feelings while you experience them.
I will openly admit, my small self doesn’t like this idea. Because what you are going to see are my shame themes staring right at you. Does this make me uncomfortable? YES!
You will see me in all my imperfect glory. This, at times, will mean you will witness,(depending on how deep the emotions run), me swearing, crying, and being a general mess. The point is I’m not perfect nor do I expect you to be either. In fact, when we allow ourselves to be raw and real, even in those moments that make us uncomfortable, that is how we grow and evolve to be our fullest expressions of self.
I have had enough experience with the F.E.E.L. process to know without a doubt that even (or should I say especially),when feelings don’t look so pretty coming out, they have a big message to support HUGE TRANSFORMATION.
I have done this work for years in the privacy of my own home and truly believe this is the “secret sauce” to living vibrantly and fulfilled. The reason is because this work expands you. What I desire for you to witness through my sharing is that doing this work isn’t by any means the easiest route but it will serve you in the long-term precisely because it makes you uncomfortable, which means you are ready to expand.
Here’s what rescuing is: It is you trying to fix or come up with suggestions, when others haven’t asked for your support. It is also trying to make someone feel better for how they feel.
What rescuing really is: It is about making a situation about you, unconsciously speaking.
What rescuing really does: It makes people feel unsafe to be vulnerable because rescuing further instills shame for being who you are. It energetically says there is something about you that needs fixing or should be ashamed, so here is the solution.
Trust me I know a lot about rescuing because it has been my tendency to do just that. (It is an occupational hazard for psychotherapists and life coaches!). What I know without a doubt is rescuing doesn’t serve. Rescuing is tied to fear and yang energy that wants to fix.
F.E.E.L. is about is yin energy, which means learning to receive negative feelings AND trusting in the Inner Wisdom within us all, as to what we are being called to do.
My vision for this community is a place where together we can honor and hold this yin energy. We can together hold this energy by making comments that reflect how united we truly are as you share similar feelings or challenges you have faced as you continue to grow and expand. In doing so, I believe we understand this energy and ourselves better.
So, if you are ready, let’s begin with this juicy video on ENVY!
What I realize I omitted was the last step to F.E.E.L., which is taking action. I know I am going to take action, but I want to make these steps clear to you. So the action beside posting this video is – well, let’s just say look out for a retreat in 2013!
Living Fearlessly & Choosing Love Together,