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What’s Stopping You from Sharing More of Yourself?

19 Mar 2012, by michelle in Uncategorized

Here we are at the Spring Equinox, a time for rebirth and transformation.  This spring of 2012, is a time when we need to be conscious of our personal awakening.  We are at the beginning of welcoming in a new way of being and living, as the world we live in is and will continue to experience many changes.  Now more than ever is your time to spread your wings and tap into your courage to be your full expression of self.

In your heart, you already know what it would feel like to be fully expressed.  You would be sharing a part of yourself that serves others.  Sharing yourself in this way will bring you great joy and fulfillment.

Yet, what stops you from spreading your wings?  At times, you are likely connected to that feeling in your heart where you believe in yourself so completely.  Other times, fear and negative feelings may be unconsciously dictating your reactions to life.  Rather than feel expansive, you close your wings and bring them in tight, close to you.  At that moment, you have gone into what I call your “Safe-Self.”

Let’s face it, being your Fully Expressed Self is risky.  You’re letting your wings spread bigger than you ever have.  You are allowing yourself to be truly seen.

Although sharing yourself in this way is how your heart is guiding you to live, your ego thinks differently.  Your ego wants to keep you safe -either by living inside the box: where you live afraid of how others view you OR by remaining feeling comfortable in your own skin – feeling good yet, not completely fulfilled.

The problem is your safe self is a version of being the victim.  Now let me be clear, I have no problem when we go into the victim or safe mode of living.  Being the victim or safe-self has times when it serves us to lick our wounds and nurture ourselves in order that we can pick ourselves up again after being hurt or feeling threatened.  At the same time, both being the victim and remaining in safe self mode can be overplayed and don’t serve your highest good.

Now thankfully, no one likes to remain the victim for too long.  Eventually you see you aren’t able to create the life you want remaining disempowered.  Yet, the safe self is another story.  We like staying safe – even at the expense of your true self and of the life that could be possible if you followed your heart.

The problem is that the sense of safety you are buying into is false.  It is an illusion to have your short-term needs met, while taking away your chances to have your long-term desires fulfilled.

This spring, as we are called to crack open the egg to reawaken and rebirth, ask yourself:

1. In what area of my life have I remained playing safe – by old rules, or an old role that no longer serves me?

2. Where am I longing to spread my wings and how does my safe self try to stop me?

Next, the key is to NOT judge your safe self – after all, that part of you just wants to keep you safe.  You can honor this part of you by asking:

3. How can I make you (safe self) feel safe even while I take risks to express and share myself more fully?

What your safe self ultimately wants to feel safe from is actually YOU – the harsh critic, self-doubting you!  Sure you may project that others are criticizing or judging you.  The reality is even if people were, you wouldn’t notice unless there was a part of you doing the same.

So the question really is:

4. How do I make myself safe from the part of me that picks on myself?

The answer is you listen to your negative feelings from the standpoint of love rather than fear.  From the standpoint of love, you hear more of your truth.  The more your truth guides you, the more you transform to your fullest expression of self.

(If you aren’t certain how to listen to your negative feelings from love rather than fear, don’t worry.  I will be filling you in with more details in the upcoming weeks. Just know your negative feelings hold vital energy to fuel your full expression.)

Until then, work on breaking the habit of putting yourself down by replacing those thoughts and actions with those that build yourself up.

Allow this spring of 2012 to be the catalyst to a new you – one which refuses to no longer think negatively about you.  Now how safe does that feel?  Think how differently you would respond to risk, to spreading your wings and sharing more of yourself in service to others.  All you need to do is remember:

  •   *  There is more of you your heart wants you to share and you are ready to support this vision to become your reality.
  • You have your emotions and thoughts on your side.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              *  Your emotions are the fuel to your intentions!

Now is your time to gather energy from both your positive AND negative feelings (understood from love rather than fear) to ignite yourself out of your comfort zone and into a life that feels fully expressed!

Now let’s hear from you!  What are the strategies you use to build yourself up when your ego wants to judge you instead.  (Remember now is your time to break out of the chrysalis of “your norm” and share more of you!)

See what suggestions others share that feel like a good fit for you.  When you add those suggestions to your emotional fuel – the sky’s the limit!

Here’s to “springing” a fuller expression of you!

With love and appreciation,

 

2 COMMENTS
  • Maxine Foster

    I asked the question, as you have stated, “Where am I longing to spread my wings and how does my safe self try to stop me? I have no answer…the things I had loved to do, I have no joy to do anymore, which was singing, working, and writing and expressing my poetry. I would love all gifts of the channel that is block, I was blessed and given to be open. I am just at one place looking in at the me that feels lifeless. IEveryday I say my positive affirmation and speaking life to things soul, heart, mind and body to push forward, rise and feel love again. I was far worse in my feelings, am much better than before but I think I dwell on what I have loss, what I gave away most (that huge part of me) and what I feel I may not get again (that joy, love and connection within.

    • Dear Maxine,

      Thank you for so openly sharing. The lifelessness you describe is occurring because you have lost that connection to your essence. It is time to give yourself lots of nurturance – including taking time to talk to a professional one on one. That song in your soul is still there, it has just felt safer to keep it locked up. When listened through love, your negative emotions will guide you back to your joy and love again.