What Are You Running From?

 

Over the last few weeks, I’ve noticed a lot of running. Running from areas in life that cause pain.

Why I bring this up around the Valentine’s Day is because when you run from your pain, you actually are running from GREATER LOVE within yourself, within your relationships, and within your career.

So get ready and take a BIG GULP – because this is about getting real so you can stop running away from areas of your current reality that aren’t working and actually have the ability to do something about them.

Here’s just a taste of what I’ve seen people running from in just the past few weeks:

* Pain about not having the love/career/money/self-confidence you want,
* Hurt of a relationship gone wrong,
* Dissatisfaction of a relationship that appears fine on the surface but isn’t truly meeting your needs,
* Deadening within you because you have lost your true identity trying to meet the needs of everyone else but you,
* Struggles you are having with one of your children or not being able to conceive a child,
* Fear over a health issue and of missing out on expressing all the love that you have in your heart,
* Knowingness that time is passing by and you feel lost and empty within you, and
* Realization that you have so much potential waiting to be seen, yet you can’t seem to fully express your highest self in your current reality.

I’m getting very clear with my intention that I am here to foster change for my community. Rather than just inspire you with what is possible within you, I also need to get real with where you are at to empower you to create change. I am fired up to support you to choose YOU, your full truth, so you can live the life that you carry in your heart.

Let’s Begin:

 

 

Step 1: Recognize what pain you are running from in your life.

Here’s a few examples of the way we run:

  • Keep busy, especially by trying to cross off things on a list that keep you distracted from attending to areas that truly need your attention;
  • Ignore your feelings;
  • Convince yourself everything is good when inside you know something is missing but because it is good enough or “not that bad,” you settle;
  • Believe there is nothing you can do about your situation, you’ve tried;
  • Live scattered in thoughts and actions;
  • Work on “making things happen,” when the truth is you are spinning your wheels because you are doing the same ol’ same ol’, yet expecting different results;
  • Give up on yourself as well as your true desires and instead engage in behaviors that feel good in the short-term but ultimately hurt you; and
  • Refrain from getting support because you believe you know enough.

Step 2: Stop running.

It’s time to stop running from yourself. We all do it, especially when we are being called to own and live from more of our truth. Our power is to listen to our negative feelings about our reality so that we actually recognize how we are unconsciously running. Your negative feelings are supporting you to recognize you are trying to avoid your fear. When you try to avoid fear, you cannot access your empowered self. You aren’t centered, you are running. Your empowered self doesn’t run from fear, it receives the wisdom of what you are running from and what you are running from is ultimately you being your highest version of you. (Twisted, I know, but oh so true!)

Step 3: Allow the wisdom of your feelings to guide you to act differently from your norm.

Your negative feelings alert you when you’re in your comfort zone and it is no longer serving you. You need your negative feelings to awaken you when you are staying in your comfort zone because your norm feels safer than the unknown. The loving energy of your negative feelings is present to give you specific guidance and energetic fuel to move you outside the confines of comfort to expose the real you, even (and especially) when doing so scares the $h*T out of you.

This is exactly when you feel your life force again, you start really living, and you stop running from you.

Stop running Valentine & Choose YOU instead!

Holding You in Your Highest,

PS: If step #3 is a challenge for you, I’ve got something that is going to BLOW YOUR MIND – it is so incredible, I can hardly keep a lid on it.  More to come soon!


How to Approach a Complaint from LOVE!

Whenever we complain, it is because we are experiencing a level of dissatisfaction about a situation.  Our sense of dissatisfaction occurs when a situation is creating stress, complications, or problems.  Through complaining, we are hoping to be heard and ultimately to address a deeper, unconscious need of being seen, recognized, and valued.   Hence, the real reason we complain is when we don’t feel our needs are being adequately honored.

 

When you are able to recognize how a situation is making you feel dishonored, you are able to voice your complaint from an empowered standpoint rather than lack.  Most people, unfortunately, do not feel as if their voice matters, which makes their complaints ineffective.  When you don’t feel empowered, whether that is at work or in a relationship, you don’t offer strategies to change the situation.  From a place of unconscious disempowerment is while you’ll turn to making snide comments, gossip, or just plain being rude.  These acts of disempowerment are your ego’s way to try to reclaim power, which of course not only doesn’t work, but also reinforces your sense of powerlessness.

 Approaching Your Complaint from an Empowered Stance

When you approach a complaint from an empowered stance, you recognize the benefit in creating a change for everyone involved and you are able to voice those advantages to others.  When you are truly connected to the advantages this has for the overall good, you are able to present yourself with greater confidence as well as compassion.  You are able to look someone in the eye because you have the clarity for a better vision. At the same time, you are open to understanding where others are coming from as well.  From this stance, you may encounter new information that allows you to recognize what changes you could make as well.  Ultimately, this leads to more effective communication and connection.

 

In order to ensure you are addressing a complaint from an empowered stance, be cognizant of timing.  First, make sure you are able to respond rather than react to your own feelings.  When you react, you come from a place of lack and powerlessness, which shows up as blame.  On the other hand, when you take a step back, you are able to respond to your feelings.  By choosing to respond from an empowered stance, you are able to recognize how your feelings are guiding you to take action toward changing the circumstances.  Rather than taking out the situation on another (regardless of how involved they are in creating that circumstance), your empowered stance recognizes this as on opportunity to cause a mutually beneficial change.  The situation then automatically shifts from complaining and blaming another, to a discussion in which you claim responsibility for your needs at a deeper level.

 

Secondly, you are going to have better results by also being aware of timing for those whom you are approaching about a complaint.  If they seem flustered or overwhelmed, save broaching the subject for a time when they can really listen to you.  If this is something that is pressing, you can state to the person “I need to talk to you about something that is very important.  My sense is that now may not be a good time.  Can you give me a time today when you can take a few minutes to sit down and have a ten minute discussion?”  This approach lets the other person involved know that you are thoughtful of both their feelings and their time, which leads to them being more receptive to what you have to share.

 

The bottom line is your complaints matter!  Even if they do not feel received from another, even when you approach them from an empowered place, they matter.  The reason is because this information about you not feeling heard, seen, or validated is important for YOU to take in about what decisions you need to make.  Rather than look outside yourself for validation, see how this situation is guiding you to validate yourself from within first and foremost.  From this place of inner validation, you gain the certainty about what next step is for your highest good, as well as those involved, and can respond from empowered love rather than fear or lack.

Should you currently be having a challenge with a certain area where your needs aren’t being met, I encourage you to join my upcoming online seminar The Keys to Emotional Mastery.  It is often when you have issue with another, that you are being given an opportunity to access more of your truth and evolve.  It is also where we often get stuck.  Join this FREE gathering so you too can learn how your feelings are guiding you to become more aware of your inner truth and wisdom.  Register here: www.keystoemotionalmastery.com/

Live Fearless – Choose Love,

Michelle

 

PS:  I would love to hear about your complaints.  Do you allow yourself to complain or bite your tongue?  Have you approached your complaints from love or fear, now that you are able to look back at them?   Would it also be helpful for me to cover how not to take complaints or criticisms directed toward you so personally??  Keep me posted and share your thoughts below!

 

How to Get Off the Emotional Roller Coaster

In the last couple of months, I have been fortunate to do some travel that’s been all about FUN! One of those trips was shortly after my book launch where my husband and I got away to Old Quebec -sans kids!! Needless to say we had a blast. We were thrilled to get away to a French speaking land where croissants and cappuccinos were found around every corner.

One of our adventures was traveling to the Montmorency Falls. We were told this was about 8 miles from our hotel and were lent bikes to make the trek. “Just go up to the market and follow the trails,” we were directed. Little did we know there would be multiple trails and with little French under our belts, we went the wrong way. This made our 16 mile round-trip ride turn into a 30 mile adventure.

Although I was exhausted by the end of it, I was filled with appreciation for two main reasons. The first was being able to see even more of the country than we planned (especially the exquisite falls) and the second was recognizing how much easier it was to navigate the adventure without kids in tow.

 

As much as we love them (here they are on their first day of school), I know enough that my kids would not have appreciated the length of the ride and would not have hidden their disappointment.

This reminded me of how often we are not just dealing with our own emotions. Our feelings are impacted by those around us and how they are feeling in the moment as well. Just one challenge can stir the pot. With the multitude of challenges you can encounter in any one day, it is easy to find on one of those more challenging days that you find yourself feeling as if you are living on an emotional roller coaster.

My point is feelings happen. When you find yourself on that emotional roller coaster, check out my video this week on how you can get off quickly and easily:

 

Please share the wealth and spread to the message of love to those you know who are caught in the ups and downs of life!

Live Fearlessly – Choose Love,

Sadness to Vibrancy?

Fall is such a beautiful time of year.  There is so much vibrancy of colors where I live that you can’t help but immediately feel emotionally picked up by the beautiful surroundings.  The cool, crisp air reminds you that change is in the air.  You can’t help but feel held by the radiance of the earth at her peak!
I feel extra lucky to have my birthday in October and this year I felt like I was treated to an extra dose of love.  It wasn’t one thing in particular that made it special.  It was things falling together and me being able to experience the collective energy of it all.  The day before my birthday, I just so happened to get together with my “TYMBA” friends.  On my birthday morning, I was surprised by streamers, balloons, a special place-mat & flowers (see pic in blog), all created by my kids and husband.  There were oodles of messages, a lingering lunch at my favorite tea-room with one of my soul sisters, and an evening of raggae dancing! What fun I had and how extremely blessed I felt!!
What struck me the most was that it wasn’t one person who made the day special.  It was the collective.  These are the little things you do that make the world a better place for others.  These are what makes the world so vibrant.  Maybe that is why Fall is such a special time of year, because we are celebrating the abunance of the collective.  It is not one leaf that creates a tree to radiate, it is the collective of all the leaves that creates a breath-taking view, that awes, and inspires.
The trees and their leaves, as far as I know, don’t realize what they are doing, they are just doing their thing.  The same goes for you.  You just being you and sharing how you are guided to share of yourself is a treasure to those around you. And when rough moments occur, as they did for me earlier this month, know that it is a signal for more of your vibrancy to come through you.
When you feel down, the last thing you are feeling is vibrant. Yet, could it be that your negative feelings are leading you to more of your radiance? Find out what one simple question you can ask yourself that will shift you from feeling weighed down to shining from the inside-out!  Come find more of your inner radiance in the unexpected here:

Now let me introduce to you my sad self.  Usually, I actually like her.  She slows me down and isn’t so hyper, which I admire about her.  This time, my sadness was more challenging.  Still, I wanted to receive the sadness, even though there wasn’t automatic clarity. The clarity, I knew, was forthcoming.  You can see my sad self here: https://vimeo.com/51088078
Negative feelings happen to us all.  Now you have a choice to use them to serve you.  I hope this inspires you to see the love and potential for vibrancy in those uncomfortable emotional moments.  Like all moments, it too will pass, just make sure after it passes, you have grown and evolved!
Living fearlessly in Love Together,
Michelle

How to Choose Joy

What is joy to you?  Is it going about your day with more lightness and presence?  Is it having daily opportunities to experience belly-laughter?

 

Most of us tend to carry too much on our shoulders, which takes away from the potential of joy within us.  Yet the potential of joy is always there.  If you desire more joy in your life, this means you have to consciously make some choices to bring this potential within you forward.

 

One of the best ways is to get to the core of what exactly is weighing on you.  What are you carrying?  Go ahead and make a list.

 

Now ask yourself how does it feel to be carrying your load?  What emotions come up for you?

 

Underneath everything that you are feeling, my guess is that a part of you feels sad.  This part of you feels sad for carrying so much emotional weight.  But wait, there is more!

 

Your empowered self is using your sadness as an indicator that you are buying into false beliefs and thoughts.  You then take action based on those thoughts and beliefs, which ultimately don’t serve your highest good.  The result is you are robbed of some of your joyful potential.

 

Bingo!  This information revealed by your sadness is crucial to your joy.

 

Why?  Because knowing what is at the core of your sadness allows you to choose differently.  This is how you learn to choose joy over the lies your small self/ego tell you.  And this is why it is so important for you to listen to your sadness, (or any other feeling for that matter), because doing so actually empowers you.

 

Gone are the days when you try to free yourself from negative feelings, because you know as well as I do that what you resists persists.  No, your empowered self wants to get to the core of what it is that you need to create more joy.

 

Joy is an internal creation. 

 

Your actions, thoughts, and beliefs can either fan your internal spark of joy or dampen it.  Listening to your sadness from your empowered self grows your joy.  Listening to your sadness from your small self smothers your internal flame.

 

Here’s the incredible news – you knowing that empowerment and love exist in your negative feelings means you are already on the path to greater joy.  The reason is because even if you have a bad day, which we all do, your sadness will be a reminder of how crappy you feel when you choose those small self beliefs.

 

I am not saying that making that choice away from your small self belief system will always be easy.  Yet, it is exactly the potential of your joy within you telling you that those beliefs no longer serve you.  If you think of your sadness similar to the yin symbol(the dark side of the yin yang symbol), you’ll see that at the core of all the darkness is light.  It is the same with each of your negative feelings, at the core is love.

 

So even though a part of you is used to the weight on your shoulders, if you listen to your feelings, you will reconnect to your inner spark.  Your inner spark is trying to guide you back to joy by signaling to you through your negative emotions that this load doesn’t need to be carried in the same way, if even at all, anymore.

 

To choose joy, you listen to whispers of your inner spark.  To get to those whispers, you’ll have to consciously choose to hear past the racket of your small self saying things like you don’t matter or you aren’t good enough.  In that moment, choose to commit to whisper rather than the small self hullabaloo.

 

Regardless of what your small self is telling you about why your sad, what your empowered self is signaling to you is that you are ready to bring in more of your light into your life.  To get there, your sadness slows you down so you can reflect on: What do I really want out of life? What are  my inner self’s needs?  When you follow the responses to those questions, that is when you are recommitting to you and to living In-Joy.

 

We get used to how much light we allow into our lives.  Your sadness is indicating you are ready, willing and able to live with greater light, love and joy.  Thank your small self for making it so crystal clear what path feels better.  With this gratitude you open yourself to expand to greater joy within you!

 

In-Joy & Gratitude,

 

 

Want to learn the empowering message to each of your negative feelings?  Now you can with my new book F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love, Turn Your Negative Feelings Into Your Greatest Allies. 

Pre-Order your copy at www.feelthebook.info

 

 

Your #1 Tool to Support Your Inner Transformation

Remember at the beginning of the year how I said 2012 was a year of letting go?  How is that going for you thus far?  Are you experiencing some emotional depths as well as the highs?

If you are in the process of transformation – your answer is a resounding yes!  Emotional highs and lows is what transformation feels like.  Your emotions bring you head on with your fears in order for you to make a profound choice.   Are you going to stay in the safety of who you are right now or are you going to share more of yourself in love.

Let me be clear that there is absolutely nothing wrong with where you are.  You don’t need to “strive” to be anything more than who you authentically are.  The emotions you experience are there to support you to do just that, experience your true self emanating the love that naturally comes within you.  In other words, your negative feelings are your natural indicator telling you there is more love within you ready to be experienced, felt and seen.

You see, there comes a point when the love within you cannot bear to stay trapped inside any longer.  It must come out and be expressed more fully.  This shows up as negative feelings challenging you with your career, relationships, money, health, you name it – ALL SO YOU CAN EXPERIENCE MORE OF THE LOVE THAT IS WITHIN YOU!

To experience more of the love within you, you have to be awoken to when you are unconsciously responding from a place of fear.  That is what your negative feelings are there for – to support you to recognize when you are responding from fear rather than love.

Your authentic essence is signaling to you through your negative feelings, saying: “Come on, you are ready to experience more of the love within you.  I know it is scary to let go of this illusion of safety your fear brings.  Trust me, how good you will feel in the long-term, when you feel more clear and certain about the unique expression of the love that resides within you.”

I know change and letting go of old patterns, beliefs and thoughts can be tough.  It can be tough to switch from struggling with your negative emotions to actually recognizing the loving energy coming through them.  Yet what choice do we really have?  All we really have to choose from is love over fear as much as possible.

Sometimes I choose fear.  Thanks to my negative feelings, I don’t stay there too long.  My negative feelings remind me that in choosing fear, how uncomfortable and painful it is.

So how do you choose love when you are wrapped up in your own fears?

You remember this challenge you are experiencing isn’t really about you on a spiritual level.  This challenge is about you being able to impact others with your unique expression of love – an expression that can only come from you.  More importantly, your unique expression of love is NEEDED by others, whether that is your family, the company you work for, your community.  The point is you don’t know who your love will touch, nor do you need to know.  You are just being called to share more of it each and every time you experience a negative feeling.

You being your unique expression of love isn’t about being lovey-dovey per-say.  All it is about is getting clearer about who you truly are, what you came here to do and you valuing this deepest truth so it more fully solidifies within you.  When your knowingness of the love within you is unwavering, you feel free.

With love for you as you open yourself up to the amazing love within you-

Michelle

PS: I really do want to hear how your transformation process is going this year.  Share your comments below or email me at support@michellebersell.com.

Four Steps to Break Free from Self-Sabotage

You never know how you are going to be called to serve in a given day.  On this particular day, I was called to serve by rescuing a trapped bird.  During the recent storms we’ve been experiencing, the bird found shelter in a lamp post outside my home.  At the time, it likely seemed genius for the bird to go through a broken glass plate in the lamp to score such a safe, dry, comfortable place to rest.

Fast-forward to the next day and the bird is wigging out because what, at one point, looked like safety was now her trap.  As soon as I saw her, struggling and fighting to break her way free, I could relate to her instantly.  So many times, I have found myself or one of my clients pushing and fighting to make things happen.  We have set in our mind what we want, yet our actions only leave us exhausted and no where closer to where we want to be.

Now, all the bird needed to do was turn around to find the same hole was there for her to get out of this mess.  The problem was the hole in the lamp post was directly facing my garage – the opposite direction of where she wanted to go.  She was looking out at the other intact glass plates and saw trees and other birds happily flying along.  She was likely thinking “Out there is where I want to be.”  It would be easy to think “Just turn around little bird and you’ll see how easy it is to get your desired outcome.”  But she doesn’t take a step back, she just keeps bumping into the glass plate in front of her.  She sees where she wants to go, yet her efforts aren’t working.

Sound familiar?   How many times do you find yourself in the same spot despite your efforts?  That is your indicator that you too are operating from fear.  When you are in a state of fear, whether you are conscious of it or not, you are taken away from what actually serves and supports your highest good.  Just as the bird was afraid of being stuck, so often are we.  Yet the direction our fears tell us to go is often the opposite direction of what will actually serve us.  Just as the bird’s fear was telling her to keep pushing against a glass plate, we keep pushing against the tides of life.

To help my poor bird friend, I knew what I needed to do.  I got in front of her face and looked her straight in the eyes.  Although I was scary and obviously made her uncomfortable, I did this for a reason – to allow her to see the easiest way out of her situation.  Only in that moment was she able to turn the other direction and finally see how to set herself free from her own trap.  In an instant, she was gone and free to live as her heart guided her.

Guess what, your negative emotions are trying to do the same loving gesture as I did for the bird.  Now just as the bird did not think me getting in front of her face was loving, we often don’t think of our negative feelings as loving.  They are!

I know when you first experience a negative feelings, they make you feel uncomfortable and might even feel scary or overwhelming, just like my big eyes were to the bird.  Yet, negative feelings are loving because when you consciously learn to listen to the higher vibrational message, they are there to guide you.  Your negative feelings actually signal to you how you are going the wrong way AND give you the guidance you need to get back on track.

Unfortunately, you are often too busy trying to fight your negative feelings.  You distance yourself from your negative feelings in order keep going in the direction that you think will get your needs met.  Then you wonder why you aren’t getting your desired outcome met.

 Here’s the human guide to break free from fear and/or self-imposed limitations:

Step One: Recognize that where you are is not where you want to be.  It is so easy to keep ourselves busy – so darn easy in this society to stay busy, right?  The truly courageous move is to slow yourself down and see if you are living in alignment with what you truly desire.  Otherwise, you are acting like our bird friend – doing a lot of the same action over and over, yet not getting very far.

Step Two: Listen to your feelings.  If you truly are committed to living your fullest life possible, you must be willing to face your fear.  For us human folk that means listening to aspects of ourselves that aren’t happy.  The good news is that you only have fear when you are ready to expand.  Otherwise, you would feel fulfilled right where you are.

Step Three:  Look your ego in the eye.  When you listen to your feelings, the ego is the first to speak and its language is fear.  What your ego is going to share with you is the illusion.  Remember, to our bird friend, she only saw one way to freedom, yet it was completely incorrect.  Write down the limitations that you hear come forward from your fear.  How are they working for you?  You need to know because that is where you are operating from.  If you feel that what you have is better than nothing, that is a clear indication that fear is running and limiting your life.

Step Four: Risk letting go.   Your ego will tell you a whole bunch of stories that you are letting go of your dream if you stop listening to your fear.  That is the illusion!  You access your ideal when you choose to let go.  Back up, choose another option (there always is at least one, if not several, other choices to choose from).  This is when you will witness real courage and strength within you.

The shifts that are occurring  in your life are present to remind you of your truth.

This truth is: you are stronger and more courageous than you realize.

We are each being called to ACT upon this inner strength, as talk is no longer enough.  The way we have learned to understand our emotions has set us all up to struggle.  There is a new way.  In the upcoming weeks, I am going to share with you more about how this new way will radically change how you feel and live, supporting you to act more fully from love, courage and strength.

My Abundant Little Life

It is so easy nowadays to get triggered with a sense of lack:

- You see people rocking it on Facebook.
- You see reality shows where people are living extraordinary lives.
- You see your own debt.

That is when it is easy to get overwhelmed or feel down.

There is another way!

Let me share with you a little story that just happened so you can see how easy it really is to receive!!

What about you? Are you ready to live (or already living) an abundant little life? Share with me how.

Is Your Worth Based on Love or Fear?

Yesterday was a challenging day.  I felt myself in a state of fear as I reworked the chapter on fear in my upcoming book.  Coincidence?  I don’t think so!

The truth of the matter is I am eager to get my book done.  In fact, I told my editor it would be done by early next week.  My fear was making me push myself.  I started questioning myself and became frustrated.  The chapter wasn’t feeling right.

Thankfully, I know how to understand my frustration from the higher consciousness of love.  In fact, my upcoming book Feel Every Emotion as Love teaches how each of your negative feelings presents themselves in order for you to get back on track from living from a state of love.  Each negative feeling has a specific message to guide you back on course.

My frustration was there to notify me that what I am doing isn’t going to work for me.  You see, in my quest to get my book finished, I have been lacking nurturing myself.  That’s when I realized how I had fallen back into basing my worth on fear rather than love.

Oh how often I do this – because I am a doer.  Doers are great and yet in order for our doing to be effective, it must be balanced with time to receive nurturance, love and care.  For me that is often taking time to read in the middle of the day, go for a walk, color, or turn on Ellen (I love her!).  I am only nurturing myself for 20-30 minutes and then I feel revitalized.

When I base my worth on fear, there is no time for nurturing myself.  My worth, I believe in that moment, is about getting things done at nearly all costs.  My frustration came in to remind me this is no longer my way.  Sure I will still get triggered from time to time when deadlines loom.  The truth of the matter is I wasted a ton of time yesterday pushing myself.  Way more time than the 20-30 minutes I usually give to myself as a nurturance break.

Not today – Today has already been magical and will continue to be so.  As I was rushing to get to yoga, another plan arose in me.  I knew I needed to get outside. I went for a run and I swear to you the butterflies were dancing with me.  The birds were singing, dragonflies twirling and bees humming along.  What a gift!

I came home and laid on the lawn.  Even though it was cool, I took off my sweatshirt and allowed the sun to soak into my bare arms and face.  I felt thoroughly connected again to the love that surrounds me as well as the love that radiates from within me.

From this place of where I stand now, where I am thoroughly connected to love, I am once again reminded of the important choice we all have.  We each have a choice, and it truly is your choice, to base your worth on love or fear.

I choose love.  From love, is where we can all be our best and truly be of service to others.   I am so grateful for the magic that occurs when we remember to love.

And now, I can’t wait to dive back into my book and share more deeply how our fear is here to serve us!  So I am off to share more of my insight there.

Before I go, I would love to hear from you.  Have you been basing your worth on fear rather than love lately?  What ways do you nurture yourself?  Please share because we aren’t on this journey alone and your messages impact others (whether your ego allows you to realize it or not)!

With great love and appreciation for you-

Michelle

The Real Meaning to Giving More Deeply

I woke up this morning with this message “Give more deeply of yourself.”  Immediately, my ego went into over-drive with my victim story.  “What more can I give.  I already have so much going on.  What more do you want from me?”  Thankfully, the loving guidance of my essence came swooping in to remind me that to give more deeply of yourself isn’t the same as doing more!

So the question was, “How could I give more deeply?”  As I took a moment to reflect, I saw how tired I have been now that the holidays are over.  When night comes, I feel wiped out.  I reflected on how some of my silly bedtime rituals of tickle bugs and other important nonsense with the kids have been cut way back.

What I was reminded of was presence.  Maybe you are like me, where you find you have moments of presence and then it slips away. Suddenly you find yourself thinking about what else is on your list of things to do.  Rather than stay in the moment, you find your mind going off into some other place.

Others of you may rarely find presence if you are like I was, an ultimate multi-tasker.  As a parent, I found it challenging not to try to do twenty things at once.  There is so much going on at once that you become good at juggling or sink.  Many of you may feel like that is also the reality of your job as well.  This is where you get addicted to living at a pace that keeps you away from your presence.  Then you find yourself in those rare spare moments that you have, checking your email rather than just being present.

This is why it is important for all of us to ask in each moment “Am I giving deeply of myself?”  In other words, are you fully in the moment?  Are you playing full out in the everyday components of life?

Don’t forget about yourself either.  Are you giving deeply to yourself as well?  Are you listening to your needs?  Are you listening to your feelings and how they are loving guiding you?  This is where many fall short.  You simply aren’t willing to give yourself this loving attention because your ego had you believe there is too much other components to your life that need your attention.  What you are really saying to yourself is that your needs are not that important.

Now ask yourself this, if your needs aren’t that important, can you really be present?  You can’t. If you can’t be present, you really can’t truly give of yourself as you desire. Your needs are going to find some way to be addressed, unconsciously or consciously.  If your needs must find an unconscious way to be met, you will find your efforts being sabotaged.

This is part of the transformation that is occurring this year, to let go of old habits that keep us away from living more fully connected to ourselves.  You give more deeply when you are fully present with yourself first.  Being present with yourself is what allows you to be fully present with others.  This is how we truly and deeply connect.  It is through present connection that you tend to find the fun just by truly being where you are.

You have so many gifts and so much love to give!  Allow your emotions to guide you back to your truth. Your truth has huge plans for you!  What you are hearing allows you more fully understand your essence, which in turn, supports you to truly share of yourself.  You can be more open, more exposed, and more vulnerable.  In doing so, you will find yourself more deeply able to give in ways that bring you the joy and fulfillment your heart craves!

Here’s to you giving of yourself more deeply!  Please share the ways that arise within you to share of yourself in this loving and generous way below.  By giving of yourself through sharing, your heart may inspire another to give more deeply in the same way!

With love and appreciation for your giving heart -

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