Letting In New Possibilities by Letting Go of the Old
Last week I was at Fox doing a quick interview on what I could have talked forever about – Fears & Ego! Why? Because I see how even the most conscientious, spiritual people can get tripped up by these two aspects of your emotions. If you want your life to feel more ideal or make a change, yet can’t seem to make it happen, it is because you are stuck in the “emotional stone-ages.”
Here’s the deal – when you are stuck in the emotional stone-ages, one of two things happen:
1. You deny that your negative feelings and fears are impacting you, even though you are struggling to make your life more ideal.
OR
2. You realize you are experiencing negative feelings or fears, yet you feel these aspects of your emotional self hinder you.
Guess what? The reason why you feel this way is because your perspective regarding your emotional well-being is entirely based upon your ego. It is your ego judging your feelings and fears. The result is you cannot get the momentum you need when your perspective remains tied to your ego.
If you want to change your life for the better, you’ll want to have the clarity, energy, passion and personal power that your emotions give you to move forward faster and with greater ease. Choose this year to be the year you view all of your feelings, fears and ego through the lens of love rather than fear, and see how different your life becomes!
To help you make these shifts, always feel free to email support@michellebersell.com with your personal questions. I’ll post them on my blog (your personal info excluded) in the order they are received. Another option is to join my F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program, which you can find out more about at http://www.michellebersell.com/feel/
Love is always the path you can trust to open yourself up to new possibilities!
Live Emotionally Conscious – Live Exceptionally Well,
Reflection of 2010 and into 2011
The end of the year is a wonderful time to become a witness to the life you have created. By reflecting upon the miracles/gifts as well as the areas that challenged you in 2011, you open yourself further to the conscious creation process. Many people like to jump in and start focusing on goals or resolutions for the new year. Doing so without reflection, however, will not give you the momentum you need to make lasting change.
To begin with, focus on these major aspects of your life listed below. Make a column as to how each component felt to you in 2010 and where (if any) you have deeper desires toward that aspect of your life in 2011.
- Spirituality – How do I feel in regard to a sense of spiritual connection? How well am I able to trust?
- Relationships – How do my relationships feel (currently) as well as how you want them to expand upon in 2011?
- Intimate
- Immediate Family (ie kids)
- Extended Family
- Friends
- Career – What have I brought forward this year & what do I want to expand upon
- Physical Health – How do I currently feel in my body & is there a way I can better serve my body in order for my body to better serve me?
- Emotional Well-Being – Do my feelings and fears feel supportive to me? Are there still areas where I feel emotionally weighted down at times, if so what are the triggers? What can I do to allow my emotions to serve me in 2011?
- Sense of Self – In what ways do I demonstrate love and self-worth currently? Is there more authentic expression ready to be revealed in 2011?
- Free Time – In which ways that I currently spend my time serve my highest good? Is there more ways to bring out sensual expression, pleasure and joy in 2011?
- Home – How does my home currently support my highest good? Is there a greater desire to have my home more fully support me in 2011? If so, in which way?
- Other – Anything specific you may want to address not covered in the other categories – add here
By looking at your successes in 2010, you can identify what worked for you, how you are motivated and the external components that supported you to move forward. Being a witness to, rather than judging, where you remain challenged, you gain greater insight by asking yourself the following:
A. What do you believe were factors that negatively impacted your ability to move toward your desires?
B. How can you empower yourself better to get the support you need?
C. Are you setting yourself up to succeed, as you did with previous successes?
D. Do you need further guidance?
Next, prioritize what has the greatest significance to you at this time. This is important because you want the majority of your energy (at least 80%) going toward your top 3 desires. (This may only be 2 desires if the ones you are undertaking are major life changers!) Allow the remaining to be longer term shifts that you give some energy toward ( the remaining 20%) and see what small steps you want to take throughout the year to give some momentum to those desires.
For your top priorities, utilize the information gathtered from questions A-D to address what additional support you need to move forward. Begin each week with reflecting upon what your next step is toward reaching your desire. Many people get lost in trying to figure out how to get to the end result when you truly only need to know your next step. Establish a day each week to weekly reflect upon whether or not how you are going about moving toward your desire is working. Tweek your plan for the following week given that information, along with determining what your next step is. By doing this weekly check-in, you are going to find two things:
- You are more attuned to your needs and challenges
- You are given the guidance you need to take another step forward by staying attuned to yourself
Don’t forget to honor each week the small shifts that are created. The shifts in which you know of even though others cannot yet see the external results, are the most significant. This is the real route to create life altering shifts!
May 2011 be filled with the blessings you have deep within your heart!
Live Emotionally Conscious – Live Exceptionally Well,
The Gift of the Season – Access Your Divine Spark!
Silence…ahh, sweet silence. The silence I crave is not simply slowing down. You know as well as I do, you can slow yourself down, while your mind keeps going. During the holidays, for many of you, silence is hard to come by as life seems overly full (as do our bellies). Others, on the other hand, may feel the depth of silence, when life feels less full than you would desires it to be. In either case, neither describes silence. You can have time to yourself, yet your mind can be filled with too much noise.
In the northern hemisphere, where I currently live, the length of darkness we are entering into supports us to create inner silence. This cannot be done by simply slowing yourself down. Creating inner silence is a type of miracle in and of itself. I have been practicing meditation 6 days a week, for over eight years. Obviously, I am no yogi, yet I have enough experience under my belt to know what a gift true silence from within is. Sometimes, you grasp the silence for just a few fleeting moments. Other times, you can be swept away by the gift of silence without realizing how much time has elapsed. During the holidays, the later type of silence is few and far between.
Just as nature has a period in which the external conditions lie dormant in order to prepare for transformation beneath the surface, so do we. The darkness outside, is beckoning for you to go to the darkness inside and be swept away by the silence residing within you. What you will find is a light guiding you, telling you more about your true path and the next steps for you to take.
Whether you are Christian or not, you have likely heard of the Christmas song, “Silent Night.” I have heard and sung the song so many times myself, yet rarely paid attention to the point being made. Silence is where miracles are born from and occur. Silence is the core of the potential that awaits within you – the same as it does for humanity as a whole.
Silence is a gift that cannot be created, yet can be found. No matter what your spiritual beliefs are, silence is a true gift the season offers. This is the time of year when the Divine Spark within you is waiting to be found at a deeper layer. Take this time to go within and discover what miracles are waiting to manifest through you. Only you can decide if the silence within you is worth finding.
Here’s to celebrating the silence within!
Happiest of Holidays to You!
Be A Light Unto Yourself: A Response to a Question Regarding Living Your Passion & Loneliness
Date: Wed, Sep 22, 2010 at 7:45 PM
Subject: Advice on Life Passion
To: support@michellebersell.com
Hi! My name is Mel!
I was reading on “the key to find and/or elevate your passion toward life” about “non-doing.” I feel like I entered that space not too long ago. I am in my late 20′s, a single young lady w/a Master’s in Gerontology. I work as a Care Manager. I am really devoted to my church, where my heart and passion is. I love to lead Praise & Worship and I’m definitely interested in growing spiritually. I have many hopes-marriage, better job, etc. I have an awesome, supportive family and a few “close” supportive friends. I’ve been alone more lately, hoping to get a grasp on things, life, my passion. I saw the article said to send for advice, any thoughts?
Thank You Sincerely,
Mel
Hi Mel,
“Be a light unto yourself” is the phrase that comes to mind when I think of your struggle between hope for the future and your sense of loneliness currently. The truth is Mel, you are not alone with feeling lonely. During times of transitional change, the vast majority of people go through a period of loneliness. The reason is because you are shifting your life to be in greater alignment with your truth.
Experiencing loneliness while consciously evolving is one of those topics that remains under addressed, while being extremely common. Think about for a moment what you are actually doing – you are shedding old skin and claiming more and more of what matters to you. As you grow, others may not be ready to go on that journey with you – at least not right away. You can move forward without them being right by your side, while trusting their time will come. In the short-term, you may feel more alone. In the long-term, you ultimately create relationships that support you to be the highest version of you. Plus, when those you care about are ready to move forward as well, they will be turning to you for support!
From a spiritual perspective, your loneliness is a preparation period supporting you to fulfill your life’s work. You need this time where there are less distractions so you hone in on what you are feeling, what works for you and what absolutely doesn’t, and what moves you. This is a time for creativity and exploration from the core of your essence.
I have worked with many, many people as they evolve toward finding their passion. A common thread is a sense of loneliness, whether they were in their 20’s or 60’s! In every case, what needed to be done was to live the meaning to “Be a light unto yourself.” What this means is you must go within to your internal and eternal light that exists within you. Let your light be your guide. Once you clear the clutter, what you will find is a field of possibility that lies ahead for you. Your work is to tend to the field so that it becomes the most fertile to grow your dreams. This means weeding out that which no longer serves you and bring into your life more that will.
I remember when I too went through a period of loneliness, which happened to be around your age as well . Some of the most profound growth I had ever experienced occurred during this time. I only wish I had someone there telling me to both savor this time as well as know that it will soon shift.
Like falling in love, you only get a couple of these types of experiences. This may be it for you where you get to discover yourself to this degree. Honor your circumstance by turning to your feelings to be your guidance and you will find yourself shifting to a life that feels greater fulfillment and fuller than you could have ever imagined!
Live Emotionally Conscious – Live Exceptionally Well,
Find Greater Joy & Fulfillment through Connection!
Connection is the key to expansion and December is such a wonderful month to connect! I know for many of you, your plates can feel like you have enough servings for four people instead of just you. As we step into a month that is known for hustling and bustling, slow down to reflect how your energy is best used.
What will bring you joy, fulfillment, or laughter?
What does your essence feel called to do prior to the end of 2010?
Because who you are is a one-of-a-kind ball of energy, you are deeply needed in the world. How you are needed may appear simple at times, like almost anyone could fill in. However, the fact you are in any given circumstance brings unique perspective, talents, feelings and actions that no one else can offer in the same manner.
Often times, your ego will dismiss how significant you really are, how you really do touch others and the numerous ways your energy can be applied. You hear reasons in your mind as to why you should not offer your energy. I understand. I get tired too, especially during the holidays. This is a signal to get back on track to what will bring you greater internal wealth. Often times, energy is leaked on trying to create external circumstances that appear abundant rather than feel abundant.
To get back on track, do the following:
- Think about how you can give of yourself that has nothing to do about the holidays. You just do it because it feels right to you.
- Reach out to those who need support. This can be anything from supporting those with less material access to calling up a family member.
- Chose joy over perfection. So what if your holiday cards got out late if it meant you had time to bake cookies with the kids. Think of memories created through personal connection over what our should-do list tells you to-do.
- Be open to experiences that scare you due to the fact you are being called to go outside your comfort zone. This is an amazing gift for you to see more of your true potential!
When you connect to others in this way, you expand, your energy increases and you feel greater personal empowerment. What a great way to end the year!
You are so deeply needed. You are offered numerous opportunities to connect in ways that may seem insignificant to your ego, yet can have profound effect in other people’s lives. Choose what will fuel you internally through the expansiveness of connection and you will create a fulfilling, memorable and joy-filled December!
Happy Holidays!
Live Consciously – Live Exceptionally Well,
Why Healthy Boundaries Lead to Greater Happiness!
Boundaries are not about having a brick wall (or some other block you cannot penetrate) around you. Healthy boundaries simply allow you to filter out what isn’t for your highest good. In any type of relationship whether familial, marital or friendship you want to have healthy boundaries in order to ensure the following:
A) Mutual Respect
B) Trust
C) Connection
Having these components in a relationship allow you to be able to work through any disagreement. More importantly, having great relationships allows you to continue to flourish, see the gifts within you reflected through another and grow as an individual. Your relationships can be an energy drain or a source of replenishment to support you to remember the full truth of your potential!
When I was on Fox, I spoke of some deal breakers (to see interviews go to http://www.michellebersell.com/html/video07.html ). What we didn’t have time to go into was in any relationship how a breach of trust without remorse AND being willing to do something different is truly reason to move on. This can happen with infidelity as well as with irresponsible financial decisions in a marriage. In friendships, trust can be broken as well through something as life consuming as a drug problem or as basic as gossip. In these cases, you have to know your limitations in that you cannot change others, yet you can make decisions to change your circumstances.
To create healthy boundaries you must a) know what feels good and right versus bad/off and wrong to you b) be willing to express your feelings to others and c)stay firm in your convictions by not becoming attached to others reactions
Creating healthy boundaries in the short-term can certainly be challenging. In the long-term, however, you are setting yourself up to have ideal circumstances to feel the joy of life in the company of others who are a true reflection of love!
Happy Relating & Boundary Creating!
Caring = Expansiveness!
Let me start off by acknowledging that I know you are a caring person. You are probably saying “Michelle, how can you know this if we haven’t met in person?” Simple – You are a caring person because you are a part of this community, one that focuses on how to consciously evolve. Trust me, this only interests caring people!
As a caring person myself, I also recognize it can feel challenging at times to demonstrate how much you care. Last week for instance, I wasn’t as attuned to my kids as I would have liked to be. Normally, when they come home from school, I put my focus solely on them, their day, and their responsibilities that they need to take care of. Much of last week, I just wasn’t there. The idea of trying to multi-task with all my kids’ homework, while creating a nutritious home-cooked meal was too much. Instead, I just wanted to cook in peace, which left me acting somewhat short with them. Quite honestly, I don’t think there is anything wrong with having those moments. We are human and have limitations are at times.
Besides knowing your limitations, it is also important to realize how expansive you can be when it comes to caring. I am sure you know what it feels like to be moved by an experience that you feel so open and waves upon waves of love run through you. I was fortunate enough to attend an event on Saturday that was led by my friend and colleague Dr. Mollie Marti of www.BestLifeDesign.com . At that amazing event, I was awoken to remember to expand my sense of caring. You see, it isn’t that I didn’t know about caring previously. People and experiences are placed in our lives to support us to remember at a deeper level. When you are attuned to your feelings, you will feel touched when you hear something that you are supposed to remember. Then you must decide if you are going to act on how you feel or rationalize your way out of expanding.
Of course, you know that caring matters, but is there a way that it could be amped up? For me the answer was/is yes! I am not just talking about my kids either, because not completely focusing on them is the exception rather than the rule. I am talking about expanding yourself to care in ways that go beyond your norm.
By challenging yourself in a way that is not your typical – perhaps even makes you feel uncomfortable, you will tap into expansive energy within you. From this energy you feel and believe that anything is possible because it is. Think about for a minute what is important to you and then think about what prevents you from putting more of your energy toward that. We each have gifts to share, whether it is time, money, talent, or love. Which of those makes you the most uncomfortable to share? Which do you have a block or an excuse? We must remember we are all wealthy beyond measure with treasures in our life. The more you can acknowledge that by being willing to show you care by giving of your treasure (especially that which your mind has you believe is the scarcest), the more you will experience expansiveness in your life. This is when the love within you expands beyond measure.
To experience the depths of expansion, you must be certain you have enough inner fuel to give. Each and every day, how will you celebrate your existence? What brings you joy? When you give to yourself in this manner, you declare you matter. When you know you matter, you know you have gifts to give and that it is your responsibility to share them. That is what being a good steward of yourself and others is.
I also want to say that I hope you know that I care about you. I know you have your own hopes, dreams, gifts and love to share. I am honored that you have remained connected with me to give you authentic guidance toward claiming what’s in your heart. Without you in my life, my passion would have no place to be shared. I honor you for being willing to explore with me that which is often ignored or forgotten in order to live more expansively and fulfilled!
Continue to be touched by your emotions, as your feelings are always guiding you as to how you can expand. Listen through the vehicle of love, so you can answer your personal calling of how you can share yourself with the world! It really is these simple, yet profound steps that allow you to feel filled with a love of life and everyone in it!
With Love,
Support for the Busy, Depleted Woman who Wants to Evolve
Hi Michelle, I am a married mom of 2. It’s been about a year and half that I started my spiritual journey. I feel I am going at such a slow pace though. It seems so desperately slow. I am the sole supporter of my family………..I work 10 hour days, 4 days a week. And when I’m home I feel I am so busy with errands, appointments, kids, etc. I have no time for myself, for my spirit. Funds are scarce so I cannot sign up for any of the wonderful spiritual events I come across. I do not feel my husband is very supportive, but then again maybe it’s just me, maybe it’s just my ego. I wish I had an answer………….Maybe you can help me. I know I need to work on myself, I just don’t know how. Thank you.
In love and light, Evelyn
Hi Evelyn,
Thank you for sharing your story. With having 3 kids in the span of 18 months, I very much understand your dilemma. I also know from experience there are absolute measures you can take now. I’ll give you two to begin with:
1. Shift Your Power Back to You! When people write in for support, I often share that there is a victim lurking in their story. You too have been caught by your ego but don’t worry, we all go there! With every victim story, it isn’t that you don’t have justification for feeling like you do. The problem is that from the victim standpoint you don’t have power. The truth is you do have power.
The easiest step I ever took was putting myself at the top of the list. It really is simple. You write your normal “to-do” list out and you put your own need/desire first. When you implement this you will find two things.
A. You have the tendency to get more done than you normally would because you are happier, more present, and less stressed.
B. Whatever you don’t get done won’t seem that important.
Doing this simple step will change your life because your actions state that you matter!
2. Listen, Honor and Act on Your F.E.E.L.ings! Although you don’t share your emotions in your story, I can sense how you feel. I sense frustration and resentment toward your husband and all the responsibilities you carry. I sense you feel alone and lost – leading you to feel sad that you aren’t able to move forward with your life as you would like.
I have GREAT news for you, because your feelings are present to guide you through this situation. What this means is that how you are feeling is spot-on accurate, when you shift your understanding of your emotions from the emotional stone-ages to F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love! When you learn how to F.E.E.L., you understand that your frustration is due to you doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
If you listen to your frustration you will hear two stories. One is the ego’s story, the other is coming from your essence. Your ego’s story will keep you stuck blaming your husband and focusing in on his short-comings. When you listen to your essence ( this is your true self, which has innate wisdom), you will find your frustration is wanting you to notice there is another victim story.
You are catching onto this because you suggest that your ego is involved. It isn’t that you are wrong about your husband not supporting you. If that is how you feel, you are correct. Where your ego comes into play is in not being able to see how you set up your relationship to be this way. Your frustration is telling you there is a new way to relate to your husband to create true intimacy and partnership. Your first step is to share how you are feeling with your husband from the place of love, inner knowingness and power toward yourself. This will come across much differently than what our egos have us do which is whine, nag or walk away.
If you aren’t sure how to act on your frustration through love, consider investing in the F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program. Investing in yourself will shift your sense of abundance because you are claiming your worth. The bottom line is to get affordable support because having a life that feels filled with love, joy and fulfillment is worth it! Go to http://www.michellebersell.com/feel/ for more information.
Your sense of feeling stuck Evelyn is to let you know that you have to get out of the ego and make changes that support your essence. Now is the time. Don’t give up on you!
I wish you emotional abundance as you move forward on your journey!
The Shopping Game – A Fun Guide to Conscious, Abundant Spending
Given that my birthday is in October and cool weather is coming in quickly where I live, I usually end up doing a bit of shopping to update my fall/winter wardrobe. Shopping is something that I have a lot of fun doing, especially as I have learned to do it consciously. In fact, I have so much fun, I have a developed a game to make shopping be what it should be – purchases that enhance your Spirit rather than weigh or deplete your Essence! My friend encouraged me to share this game, as it really does allow you to stay aligned with your Authentic Self as you shop without either negating your Essence’s desires or your sense of abundance.
Unless you are a Freegan, who are people who opt out of consumerism altogether by dumpster diving (very noble, but not for me at this time), shopping can bring up challenges.
You will feel challenged when you:
- Only buy what you need rather than what you want
- Struggle with what you feel you deserve to have versus what you can afford
- Feel weighted down because you over-spent
- Fight with guilt afterward even though you didn’t over-spend
- Buy things you never use (especially because it was a good deal)
At one point or another, I have done all of the above, so I know firsthand how any one of the above will make you imbalanced. The above challenges occur when your sense of abundance and worthiness are reacting in an unhealthy manner. Although there is not enough room to get into the depth of this topic here (more to come in the near future though!), the shopping game is a way to find health and consciousness all in one.
What is best about this game is that it can be applied to whether you are shopping at a grocery store, thrift store, or department store. The bottom line is that abundance really isn’t about how much something costs. Abundance is how you feel.
Here is how the game is played:
- Before setting out shopping, determine what you are willing to spend
- Go into any store and don’t look at the prices
- Gather the items that catch your eye (again, no price peaking)
- Determine whether you: A. Need and love the item B. Love but there is no need C. Fits a need but don’t love D. Entices you but don’t love
- Automatically get rid of Category D items above (entices you but don’t love). This is shopping that will leave you empty. Even though a part of you is saying, there is some value you don’t have a strong enough reaction to justify the purchase. (Common traps are you look good in it but don’t love it, you like that is was produced consciously etc… are not enough alone to justify spending).
- Start with category “A” items (those you need and love) and ask yourself what you are willing to pay for that item, in terms of what you feel the item is worth and in which you would still feel good spending.
- Now look a the price A. If the price you are willing to pay is more than the price tag and it is a category A item, this item is now a probable purchase B. If the price you are willing to pay is less than the price tag, put the item back C. Repeat the process with the categories B and C
8. Go back to step #1, what you are willing to spend. Highest ranking goes to those in category A and even those items can be categorized.
9. If there is room for category B and C items, you may do all or one of the following
A. Determine if you can do without the category C item until you find one you both love and need, if not make the purchase B. Weigh if a category B item gives you both joy and a sense of value for what you are getting C. If it is produced locally, sustainably, organically, recycled or fair trade, move up its ranking in a given category
**Special note: Keep an eye out for the over-active ego. You will know this is occurring if there is no room for having a need, which means there is a struggle with self-worth causing a sense of deprivation. In other words, you tell yourself something like I have perfectly good shoes, I don’t need boots (even though you live in a snowy climate). Conversely, if you feel that everything falls into category A, your ego is overactive in a different way because you are substituting your worth with items. )If you struggle with either of these scenarios, consider filling out my evaluation form for personal support, as this is impacting you in many ways outside of shopping).
This process is both fun and easy. (Trust me, you’ll get the guidelines down in one or two tries). My friends and I LOVE it when we are doing a little wardrobe update, as it keep everything in perspective. Plus, you can get each other to guess what their purchase price would be. What I think is fun is that you can fill up your dressing room. You aren’t “depriving” yourself from trying something on because of price. In the end, you will find that there is usually only one or two things that you will end up purchasing. Even better is that you will FEEL good inside and out for using your money in a way that feels good to you. Now that is abundance!
Here’s to you living emotionally conscious and exceptionally well!
Michelle
Need a little more R-E-S-P-E-C-T?
One reader wrote in the following:
Hello, Michelle:
(My letter must remain anonymous.)
My problem is I feel I am controlled and “bullied” by so many people in my life. I feel as if I do what my spouse wants, my close friends, etc., b/c of the way they co erce me into doing things for them. I have wondered if I misinterpret their assertiveness as bullying…but it feels like I am forced to do what they want, or they are angry with me.
Some examples: if I don’t spend our house money on what my husband would like, then he doesn’t speak to me for days. If I don’t pick up my friend’s children when she needs a favor, then she won’t call me until I call her. If I don’t drive to see my friend 7 hours away, then she’ll tell me I never have time for her, and will be curt with me the next time I do call her.
The list goes on and on…all this giving from me, and it feels like I never get.
What is this? Is everyone ‘s life full of people like this???
Thank you.
A.
Dear A.,
You are absolutely correct, you are being controlled. Yet, to have someone control you, they have something you need. That is how control works. What you need is their approval and acceptance of you. Because you need this from others, you give your power away in relationships. You give your power away because you are deeply tied to how others react to you.
It is common to turn to others to get approval and acceptance when you don’t give it to yourself. The fact that you are being mistreated by close people in your life is a wake-up call. You see, every time you dismiss your needs in a relationship, you further distance yourself from your Spirit/Authentic Self/Essence. The more distant you are from your Essence, the more you need to rely on others to validate you.
I can tell this distance already exists because you are not tapping into your feelings, rather your focus is on other people’s feelings toward you. (Notice in the letter above you don’t share how you feel, just others). To regain your connection to your Spirit, you need to remember to F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love rather than feel.
When you “feel” from the emotional stone-ages, you are going to feel angry, sad and frustrated that others are treating you this way. You are going to feel like the victim and feel powerless. You cry, mope, whine, maybe even act passive-aggressive at times because your ego is telling you that there is nothing you can do. It is the other person’s fault they are so mean, disrespectful, inconsiderate etc…
When you F.E.E.L., you still feel anger, sadness and frustration yet you realize those feelings are present to serve and support you to grow in order that you can create a fulfilling life that you deserve.
- Your frustration is present for you to recognize that how you are going about handling your relationships is no longer working. Maybe it used to work for you in the short-term to feel validated by others by doing whatever they want but you are to painfully aware of how this is limiting you now. It is time to take different action.
- Your sadness is present to support you to get clear about what that action should be. In your case, your Essence is begging you to begin to validate your choices regardless of how others react. Your Spirit is also desires clarity around how you receive love from you.
- Your anger will be present to support you to own your power and take action to support your Essence to evolve. Your Spirit is angry that your ego wins. Honor your eternal fire when it ignites to serve rather than hinder you. Your Essence knows that you deserve people in your life who honor you and make you feel good. Why don’t you believe it? Why are you willing to allow others to treat you this way? Your anger will be present supporting you to claim “ No Longer Will I Allow This – I DESERVE BETTER!”
There is so much more that is awaiting you A. Use the F.E.E.L. process to guide you to take those next steps. There is so much more that I know your Essence is trying to communicate with you. Listen to your emotions through the voice of love and you will find your way!
Wishing you the love and honor you deserve in your relationships, always!
Before I uncovered the truth to our emotions, I would become paralyzed by my feelings and fears, even though I had been professionally trained as a psychotherapist and life coach!
