Why I bring this up around the Valentine’s Day is because when you run from your pain, you actually are running from GREATER LOVE within yourself, within your relationships, and within your career.
So get ready and take a BIG GULP – because this is about getting real so you can stop running away from areas of your current reality that aren’t working and actually have the ability to do something about them.
Here’s just a taste of what I’ve seen people running from in just the past few weeks:
* Pain about not having the love/career/money/self-confidence you want,
* Hurt of a relationship gone wrong,
* Dissatisfaction of a relationship that appears fine on the surface but isn’t truly meeting your needs,
* Deadening within you because you have lost your true identity trying to meet the needs of everyone else but you,
* Struggles you are having with one of your children or not being able to conceive a child,
* Fear over a health issue and of missing out on expressing all the love that you have in your heart,
* Knowingness that time is passing by and you feel lost and empty within you, and
* Realization that you have so much potential waiting to be seen, yet you can’t seem to fully express your highest self in your current reality.
I’m getting very clear with my intention that I am here to foster change for my community. Rather than just inspire you with what is possible within you, I also need to get real with where you are at to empower you to create change. I am fired up to support you to choose YOU, your full truth, so you can live the life that you carry in your heart.
Step 1: Recognize what pain you are running from in your life.
Here’s a few examples of the way we run:
- Keep busy, especially by trying to cross off things on a list that keep you distracted from attending to areas that truly need your attention;
- Ignore your feelings;
- Convince yourself everything is good when inside you know something is missing but because it is good enough or “not that bad,” you settle;
- Believe there is nothing you can do about your situation, you’ve tried;
- Live scattered in thoughts and actions;
- Work on “making things happen,” when the truth is you are spinning your wheels because you are doing the same ol’ same ol’, yet expecting different results;
- Give up on yourself as well as your true desires and instead engage in behaviors that feel good in the short-term but ultimately hurt you; and
- Refrain from getting support because you believe you know enough.
Step 2: Stop running.
It’s time to stop running from yourself. We all do it, especially when we are being called to own and live from more of our truth. Our power is to listen to our negative feelings about our reality so that we actually recognize how we are unconsciously running. Your negative feelings are supporting you to recognize you are trying to avoid your fear. When you try to avoid fear, you cannot access your empowered self. You aren’t centered, you are running. Your empowered self doesn’t run from fear, it receives the wisdom of what you are running from and what you are running from is ultimately you being your highest version of you. (Twisted, I know, but oh so true!)
Step 3: Allow the wisdom of your feelings to guide you to act differently from your norm.
Your negative feelings alert you when you’re in your comfort zone and it is no longer serving you. You need your negative feelings to awaken you when you are staying in your comfort zone because your norm feels safer than the unknown. The loving energy of your negative feelings is present to give you specific guidance and energetic fuel to move you outside the confines of comfort to expose the real you, even (and especially) when doing so scares the $h*T out of you.
This is exactly when you feel your life force again, you start really living, and you stop running from you.
Stop running Valentine & Choose YOU instead!
Holding You in Your Highest,
PS: If step #3 is a challenge for you, I’ve got something that is going to BLOW YOUR MIND – it is so incredible, I can hardly keep a lid on it. More to come soon!
In the last couple of months, I have been fortunate to do some travel that’s been all about FUN! One of those trips was shortly after my book launch where my husband and I got away to Old Quebec -sans kids!! Needless to say we had a blast. We were thrilled to get away to a French speaking land where croissants and cappuccinos were found around every corner.
One of our adventures was traveling to the Montmorency Falls. We were told this was about 8 miles from our hotel and were lent bikes to make the trek. “Just go up to the market and follow the trails,” we were directed. Little did we know there would be multiple trails and with little French under our belts, we went the wrong way. This made our 16 mile round-trip ride turn into a 30 mile adventure.
Although I was exhausted by the end of it, I was filled with appreciation for two main reasons. The first was being able to see even more of the country than we planned (especially the exquisite falls) and the second was recognizing how much easier it was to navigate the adventure without kids in tow.
This reminded me of how often we are not just dealing with our own emotions. Our feelings are impacted by those around us and how they are feeling in the moment as well. Just one challenge can stir the pot. With the multitude of challenges you can encounter in any one day, it is easy to find on one of those more challenging days that you find yourself feeling as if you are living on an emotional roller coaster.
My point is feelings happen. When you find yourself on that emotional roller coaster, check out my video this week on how you can get off quickly and easily:
Please share the wealth and spread to the message of love to those you know who are caught in the ups and downs of life!
Live Fearlessly – Choose Love,
What is joy to you? Is it going about your day with more lightness and presence? Is it having daily opportunities to experience belly-laughter?
Most of us tend to carry too much on our shoulders, which takes away from the potential of joy within us. Yet the potential of joy is always there. If you desire more joy in your life, this means you have to consciously make some choices to bring this potential within you forward.
Now ask yourself how does it feel to be carrying your load? What emotions come up for you?
Underneath everything that you are feeling, my guess is that a part of you feels sad. This part of you feels sad for carrying so much emotional weight. But wait, there is more!
Your empowered self is using your sadness as an indicator that you are buying into false beliefs and thoughts. You then take action based on those thoughts and beliefs, which ultimately don’t serve your highest good. The result is you are robbed of some of your joyful potential.
Bingo! This information revealed by your sadness is crucial to your joy.
Why? Because knowing what is at the core of your sadness allows you to choose differently. This is how you learn to choose joy over the lies your small self/ego tell you. And this is why it is so important for you to listen to your sadness, (or any other feeling for that matter), because doing so actually empowers you.
Gone are the days when you try to free yourself from negative feelings, because you know as well as I do that what you resists persists. No, your empowered self wants to get to the core of what it is that you need to create more joy.
Joy is an internal creation.
Your actions, thoughts, and beliefs can either fan your internal spark of joy or dampen it. Listening to your sadness from your empowered self grows your joy. Listening to your sadness from your small self smothers your internal flame.
Here’s the incredible news – you knowing that empowerment and love exist in your negative feelings means you are already on the path to greater joy. The reason is because even if you have a bad day, which we all do, your sadness will be a reminder of how crappy you feel when you choose those small self beliefs.
I am not saying that making that choice away from your small self belief system will always be easy. Yet, it is exactly the potential of your joy within you telling you that those beliefs no longer serve you. If you think of your sadness similar to the yin symbol(the dark side of the yin yang symbol), you’ll see that at the core of all the darkness is light. It is the same with each of your negative feelings, at the core is love.
So even though a part of you is used to the weight on your shoulders, if you listen to your feelings, you will reconnect to your inner spark. Your inner spark is trying to guide you back to joy by signaling to you through your negative emotions that this load doesn’t need to be carried in the same way, if even at all, anymore.
To choose joy, you listen to whispers of your inner spark. To get to those whispers, you’ll have to consciously choose to hear past the racket of your small self saying things like you don’t matter or you aren’t good enough. In that moment, choose to commit to whisper rather than the small self hullabaloo.
Regardless of what your small self is telling you about why your sad, what your empowered self is signaling to you is that you are ready to bring in more of your light into your life. To get there, your sadness slows you down so you can reflect on: What do I really want out of life? What are my inner self’s needs? When you follow the responses to those questions, that is when you are recommitting to you and to living In-Joy.
We get used to how much light we allow into our lives. Your sadness is indicating you are ready, willing and able to live with greater light, love and joy. Thank your small self for making it so crystal clear what path feels better. With this gratitude you open yourself to expand to greater joy within you!
In-Joy & Gratitude,
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Happy Summer Solstice!
Many of us fall into giving of ourselves day in and out. The summer solstice reminds us that we are to open our arms, hearts and souls to receive. Receive and take in the light and the beauty that surrounds you and that is within you.
At the same time, there is a paradox to the summer solstice, because the length of sunlight will continue to diminish after this day. This is to remind us our time to receive the deep soul nourishment is NOW.
I know nowadays society keeps us constantly going and giving. My new book F.E.E.L.: Turn Your Negative Feelings Into Your Greatest Allies is due out early this fall. I am still working. Yet, the summer solstice is my reminder to pull the reigns so I can take in rather than continue to give out.
You’ve heard the phrase “lazy days of summer” right? Can you allow yourself that treat to be lazy? It can be a challenge when there is such a negative connotation to that word? We’ve learned to instead box ourselves off in air conditioning so we can still remain productive.
I know the word passive may give some of you the heebie-jeebies because we are so used to being the ones that do, give and make things happen. Yet, how are you to become a good receiver if you don’t learn to allow your needs to be met outside of you. Being a receiver, you hold the space to attract, allowing your needs to come to you.
There is a balance we need between giving and receiving. Most of us tend to lean toward doing a lot of giving. Yet women are natural receivers. Allow the summer solstice to let go of the illusion of control of your ego’s incessant need to get everything done. Soon enough fall will be here, the days grow darker, and you will again feel a natural drive to put out more energy.
This summer can you let go a little bit more and still trust your needs will be met? When in doubt, look up to the sun, open your arms wide, feel your heart open and allow the distractions of the physical world to release. Witness the ego attachment dissolve and reunite with the joy within your soul.
Your soul is waiting for your permission to say YES to the the fullest, brightest version of you – that’s what the summer solstice reminds us is naturally available not thru doing but being!
So how about it? How are you going to say YES to your being even more than last summer? Let’s hear it and inspire others with your sharing!
With Bright Blessings,
Remember at the beginning of the year how I said 2012 was a year of letting go? How is that going for you thus far? Are you experiencing some emotional depths as well as the highs?
If you are in the process of transformation – your answer is a resounding yes! Emotional highs and lows is what transformation feels like. Your emotions bring you head on with your fears in order for you to make a profound choice. Are you going to stay in the safety of who you are right now or are you going to share more of yourself in love.
Let me be clear that there is absolutely nothing wrong with where you are. You don’t need to “strive” to be anything more than who you authentically are. The emotions you experience are there to support you to do just that, experience your true self emanating the love that naturally comes within you. In other words, your negative feelings are your natural indicator telling you there is more love within you ready to be experienced, felt and seen.
You see, there comes a point when the love within you cannot bear to stay trapped inside any longer. It must come out and be expressed more fully. This shows up as negative feelings challenging you with your career, relationships, money, health, you name it – ALL SO YOU CAN EXPERIENCE MORE OF THE LOVE THAT IS WITHIN YOU!
To experience more of the love within you, you have to be awoken to when you are unconsciously responding from a place of fear. That is what your negative feelings are there for – to support you to recognize when you are responding from fear rather than love.
Your authentic essence is signaling to you through your negative feelings, saying: “Come on, you are ready to experience more of the love within you. I know it is scary to let go of this illusion of safety your fear brings. Trust me, how good you will feel in the long-term, when you feel more clear and certain about the unique expression of the love that resides within you.”
I know change and letting go of old patterns, beliefs and thoughts can be tough. It can be tough to switch from struggling with your negative emotions to actually recognizing the loving energy coming through them. Yet what choice do we really have? All we really have to choose from is love over fear as much as possible.
Sometimes I choose fear. Thanks to my negative feelings, I don’t stay there too long. My negative feelings remind me that in choosing fear, how uncomfortable and painful it is.
You remember this challenge you are experiencing isn’t really about you on a spiritual level. This challenge is about you being able to impact others with your unique expression of love – an expression that can only come from you. More importantly, your unique expression of love is NEEDED by others, whether that is your family, the company you work for, your community. The point is you don’t know who your love will touch, nor do you need to know. You are just being called to share more of it each and every time you experience a negative feeling.
You being your unique expression of love isn’t about being lovey-dovey per-say. All it is about is getting clearer about who you truly are, what you came here to do and you valuing this deepest truth so it more fully solidifies within you. When your knowingness of the love within you is unwavering, you feel free.
With love for you as you open yourself up to the amazing love within you-
PS: I really do want to hear how your transformation process is going this year. Share your comments below or email me at email@example.com.
It is so easy nowadays to get triggered with a sense of lack:
- You see people rocking it on Facebook.
- You see reality shows where people are living extraordinary lives.
- You see your own debt.
That is when it is easy to get overwhelmed or feel down.
There is another way!
Let me share with you a little story that just happened so you can see how easy it really is to receive!!
What about you? Are you ready to live (or already living) an abundant little life? Share with me how.
Yesterday was a challenging day. I felt myself in a state of fear as I reworked the chapter on fear in my upcoming book. Coincidence? I don’t think so!
The truth of the matter is I am eager to get my book done. In fact, I told my editor it would be done by early next week. My fear was making me push myself. I started questioning myself and became frustrated. The chapter wasn’t feeling right.
Thankfully, I know how to understand my frustration from the higher consciousness of love. In fact, my upcoming book Feel Every Emotion as Love teaches how each of your negative feelings presents themselves in order for you to get back on track from living from a state of love. Each negative feeling has a specific message to guide you back on course.
My frustration was there to notify me that what I am doing isn’t going to work for me. You see, in my quest to get my book finished, I have been lacking nurturing myself. That’s when I realized how I had fallen back into basing my worth on fear rather than love.
Oh how often I do this – because I am a doer. Doers are great and yet in order for our doing to be effective, it must be balanced with time to receive nurturance, love and care. For me that is often taking time to read in the middle of the day, go for a walk, color, or turn on Ellen (I love her!). I am only nurturing myself for 20-30 minutes and then I feel revitalized.
When I base my worth on fear, there is no time for nurturing myself. My worth, I believe in that moment, is about getting things done at nearly all costs. My frustration came in to remind me this is no longer my way. Sure I will still get triggered from time to time when deadlines loom. The truth of the matter is I wasted a ton of time yesterday pushing myself. Way more time than the 20-30 minutes I usually give to myself as a nurturance break.
Not today – Today has already been magical and will continue to be so. As I was rushing to get to yoga, another plan arose in me. I knew I needed to get outside. I went for a run and I swear to you the butterflies were dancing with me. The birds were singing, dragonflies twirling and bees humming along. What a gift!
I came home and laid on the lawn. Even though it was cool, I took off my sweatshirt and allowed the sun to soak into my bare arms and face. I felt thoroughly connected again to the love that surrounds me as well as the love that radiates from within me.
From this place of where I stand now, where I am thoroughly connected to love, I am once again reminded of the important choice we all have. We each have a choice, and it truly is your choice, to base your worth on love or fear.
I choose love. From love, is where we can all be our best and truly be of service to others. I am so grateful for the magic that occurs when we remember to love.
And now, I can’t wait to dive back into my book and share more deeply how our fear is here to serve us! So I am off to share more of my insight there.
Before I go, I would love to hear from you. Have you been basing your worth on fear rather than love lately? What ways do you nurture yourself? Please share because we aren’t on this journey alone and your messages impact others (whether your ego allows you to realize it or not)!
With great love and appreciation for you-
The untamed heart holds no fear. You are run by passion and intuition. You let go of control and have an innate trust in yourself.
Wow! Think about what life would be like if you lived it like that!
I am not saying you must always live with an untamed heart every single moment of your life (although you could).
* When was the last time you allowed your untamed heart to be expressed?
* When was the last time you expressed this part of you in your day to day life?
* Do others get to see, taste and feel the bold, wild you?
* Do they get to experience your unbridled power?
I am not just talking about romantic love either. This wild spirit of yours wants to be expressed in your work, with your friends and family – in all areas of your life. You have the spirit of a wild horse running within you and so often you are trying to keep it tame. Why?
The reason why we all unconsciously tame ourselves is because we’ve been programed by our fears. Fear we will not be loved, liked or accepted should we show this untamed side.
Here’s the cost:
- Lack of self-trust and confidence
- Lack of joy and laughter
- Lack of bold action that initiates much needed change in your life & in the world
- Lack of true intimacy
- Lack of passion and purpose
And so much more…
So, how about we change that?
1 A. Imagine yourself sharing this bold or wild side.
B. What do you fear people will judge about you? What might you feel ashamed about?
C. Name how that part of you is important, needed and necessary. In other words, how does that part of you serve and support you when expressed from love?
2 A. Image yourself afraid to share your bold or wild side.
B. How do you judge or shame that part of you?
C. Name how that part of you is important, needed and necessary. In other words, how does that part of you serve and support you when expressed from love?
Every aspect of you is needed and necessary. You need both sides. Yet, too often we want to hide in our fears. At times, this can be okay because that allows others to take care of us. Of course, being taken care of can feel nice. Yet, when we stay in our fear too long, we won’t feel good because there is unexpressed potential waiting to be shared.
When you have an untamed heart, you are fearless. What the world needs from each of us is to become less fearless of ourselves. In other words, we become brazen – meaning, we don’t carry shame toward ourselves.
Without this shame, you are able to truly lead. This is what the world is begging for – more who are willing to lead during times when challenges seem impossible to surmount. Guess what? To do that, they’ll need the bold & empowered you to step forward. This is how you can give of yourself and serve fearlessly. So whadaya say?
There is nothing about you that needs to be shamed. We are all one, carrying the same fears, questions, doubts and insecurities. We do this until we find our truth – that we are each love. To find this truth, you must consciously chose love over fear.
Whenever you feel your love tank can use a little boost, or whenever you need a little self-confidence, choose to express your wild, bold & brazen self. Each time you do, you step further away from the safe persona you have built and more fully awaken to your joy, beauty and power in revealing all of you!
Happy Valentine’s Day Wild One!
With lots of love from me to you-
I woke up this morning with this message “Give more deeply of yourself.” Immediately, my ego went into over-drive with my victim story. “What more can I give. I already have so much going on. What more do you want from me?” Thankfully, the loving guidance of my essence came swooping in to remind me that to give more deeply of yourself isn’t the same as doing more!
So the question was, “How could I give more deeply?” As I took a moment to reflect, I saw how tired I have been now that the holidays are over. When night comes, I feel wiped out. I reflected on how some of my silly bedtime rituals of tickle bugs and other important nonsense with the kids have been cut way back.
What I was reminded of was presence. Maybe you are like me, where you find you have moments of presence and then it slips away. Suddenly you find yourself thinking about what else is on your list of things to do. Rather than stay in the moment, you find your mind going off into some other place.
Others of you may rarely find presence if you are like I was, an ultimate multi-tasker. As a parent, I found it challenging not to try to do twenty things at once. There is so much going on at once that you become good at juggling or sink. Many of you may feel like that is also the reality of your job as well. This is where you get addicted to living at a pace that keeps you away from your presence. Then you find yourself in those rare spare moments that you have, checking your email rather than just being present.
This is why it is important for all of us to ask in each moment “Am I giving deeply of myself?” In other words, are you fully in the moment? Are you playing full out in the everyday components of life?
Don’t forget about yourself either. Are you giving deeply to yourself as well? Are you listening to your needs? Are you listening to your feelings and how they are loving guiding you? This is where many fall short. You simply aren’t willing to give yourself this loving attention because your ego had you believe there is too much other components to your life that need your attention. What you are really saying to yourself is that your needs are not that important.
Now ask yourself this, if your needs aren’t that important, can you really be present? You can’t. If you can’t be present, you really can’t truly give of yourself as you desire. Your needs are going to find some way to be addressed, unconsciously or consciously. If your needs must find an unconscious way to be met, you will find your efforts being sabotaged.
This is part of the transformation that is occurring this year, to let go of old habits that keep us away from living more fully connected to ourselves. You give more deeply when you are fully present with yourself first. Being present with yourself is what allows you to be fully present with others. This is how we truly and deeply connect. It is through present connection that you tend to find the fun just by truly being where you are.
You have so many gifts and so much love to give! Allow your emotions to guide you back to your truth. Your truth has huge plans for you! What you are hearing allows you more fully understand your essence, which in turn, supports you to truly share of yourself. You can be more open, more exposed, and more vulnerable. In doing so, you will find yourself more deeply able to give in ways that bring you the joy and fulfillment your heart craves!
Here’s to you giving of yourself more deeply! Please share the ways that arise within you to share of yourself in this loving and generous way below. By giving of yourself through sharing, your heart may inspire another to give more deeply in the same way!
With love and appreciation for your giving heart -