What It Means If You Haven’t Always Belonged

When I was young, I remember having a sense of not completely belonging. There was just aspects about what I was being taught about the world that seemed strange to me and, honestly, didn’t make sense. But I was told these were the rules on how the world worked.

Unfortunately, I found ways to try to make my square peg self fit into the round hole. Of course, I never truly fit in. I only found ways to try to blend in and belong.

Those aspects of myself that seemed weird, off, or just too complicated for the rest of society were stuffed away somewhere deep within me. My thought was without these aspects being so apparently a part of me, I would finally fit in. I thought that is when I’ll feel the sense of love, joy, and belonging I always wanted.

Did this strategy work??

NOPE! Of course, it couldn’t. My uniqueness – the part in each of us that makes us RADIATE - remained hidden.

It has been quite the journey to recover these aspects of myself. What I learned along the way is that if you’ve ever felt you were different, unique, special, off-the-wall, too much, too sensitive, or any combination of the aforementioned, you have the tendency to hide. And even though, there is so much more of you that you now see, accept, and love about yourself, there could very well be deeper aspects that remain unconsciously buried.

This was the case for myself and every single person I have worked with thus far. There is always more that remained hidden because we’ve learned to unconsciously hold back. That is why, at times. you feel like you are good at creating a fulfilling life and other times, you feel like you’ve got a kink in your internal hose that won’t allow all of your gifts to flow and be seen.

What I realized was that to uncover these unconsciously buried aspects (that are absolutely necessary to create your desires in your reality, as well as feel inner peace and joy), you need a different MO.

It just so happens that the different MO I am talking about is utilizing exactly what the norm has told us to reject – our feelings, especially our negative ones. But there is so much conditioning about how negative emotions are weak or block you. The reality is it is the rejection of negative feelings that keeps you blocked. Your negative feelings are simply a microcosm of the aspects of yourself that you believe keep you from having your desires met.

Now I don’t expect you to be able to undo this conditioning automatically. It took me years of clinical training, personal work, and spiritual intervention for me to do so. All of which occurred in order for me to teach you to know how to deeply belong within yourself so you can continue to step into your highest version of self and truth .

As you can guess, this is no small task, but one that I personally love to guide people through because the changes experienced are so freakin’ rewarding!

If you are ready to re-condition yourself to experience every aspect of yourself as love, especially those aspects of yourself you didn’t even know you were judging, shaming, or hiding, then I would like to invite you to my Big Breakthrough Forum.

If you are looking for:

• New answers
• Deep core changes,
• More clarity,
• Greater connection to your truth,
• And, of course, create Breakthroughs, then…

The Big Breakthrough Forum is for YOU!

As a part of the Big Breakthrough Forum, you and I will gather twice a month, along with a few other like-minded members. The whole point of this forum is to remain intimate in order for you to have personal time with me to unravel where aspects of the real you remain hidden or not in full expression.
To be a part of the forum, I ask all members to go in depth into the F.E.E.L. process through my F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Home Study Program. This program, on it’s own, creates major breakthroughs, where quite honestly, you may not even need my expert guidance. Still, I know for me and perhaps this goes for you too, that when learning something new, it is wonderful to have someone take you by the hand to show you the way. With the F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program, you’ll be given the in depth how to’s, and with the Big Breakthrough Forum, you’ll get the personal application to ensure your success!

Learn more about the F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program.

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Better yet, for a short time, this program is $100 off it’s normal price!

Also, if you are interested in the Big Breakthrough Forum please join in right away because spaces are extremely limited.

It would be such an honor to uncover even more of your special uniqueness that is ready to be more fully revealed and expressed!

Please let me know if you have any further questions.

With Love,

 

 

 

What Are You Running From?

 

Over the last few weeks, I’ve noticed a lot of running. Running from areas in life that cause pain.

Why I bring this up around the Valentine’s Day is because when you run from your pain, you actually are running from GREATER LOVE within yourself, within your relationships, and within your career.

So get ready and take a BIG GULP – because this is about getting real so you can stop running away from areas of your current reality that aren’t working and actually have the ability to do something about them.

Here’s just a taste of what I’ve seen people running from in just the past few weeks:

* Pain about not having the love/career/money/self-confidence you want,
* Hurt of a relationship gone wrong,
* Dissatisfaction of a relationship that appears fine on the surface but isn’t truly meeting your needs,
* Deadening within you because you have lost your true identity trying to meet the needs of everyone else but you,
* Struggles you are having with one of your children or not being able to conceive a child,
* Fear over a health issue and of missing out on expressing all the love that you have in your heart,
* Knowingness that time is passing by and you feel lost and empty within you, and
* Realization that you have so much potential waiting to be seen, yet you can’t seem to fully express your highest self in your current reality.

I’m getting very clear with my intention that I am here to foster change for my community. Rather than just inspire you with what is possible within you, I also need to get real with where you are at to empower you to create change. I am fired up to support you to choose YOU, your full truth, so you can live the life that you carry in your heart.

Let’s Begin:

 

 

Step 1: Recognize what pain you are running from in your life.

Here’s a few examples of the way we run:

• Keep busy, especially by trying to cross off things on a list that keep you distracted from attending to areas that truly need your attention;
• Ignore your feelings;
• Convince yourself everything is good when inside you know something is missing but because it is good enough or “not that bad,” you settle;
• Believe there is nothing you can do about your situation, you’ve tried;
• Live scattered in thoughts and actions;
• Work on “making things happen,” when the truth is you are spinning your wheels because you are doing the same ol’ same ol’, yet expecting different results;
• Give up on yourself as well as your true desires and instead engage in behaviors that feel good in the short-term but ultimately hurt you; and
• Refrain from getting support because you believe you know enough.

Step 2: Stop running.

It’s time to stop running from yourself. We all do it, especially when we are being called to own and live from more of our truth. Our power is to listen to our negative feelings about our reality so that we actually recognize how we are unconsciously running. Your negative feelings are supporting you to recognize you are trying to avoid your fear. When you try to avoid fear, you cannot access your empowered self. You aren’t centered, you are running. Your empowered self doesn’t run from fear, it receives the wisdom of what you are running from and what you are running from is ultimately you being your highest version of you. (Twisted, I know, but oh so true!)

Step 3: Allow the wisdom of your feelings to guide you to act differently from your norm.

Your negative feelings alert you when you’re in your comfort zone and it is no longer serving you. You need your negative feelings to awaken you when you are staying in your comfort zone because your norm feels safer than the unknown. The loving energy of your negative feelings is present to give you specific guidance and energetic fuel to move you outside the confines of comfort to expose the real you, even (and especially) when doing so scares the $h*T out of you.

This is exactly when you feel your life force again, you start really living, and you stop running from you.

Stop running Valentine & Choose YOU instead!

Holding You in Your Highest,

PS: If step #3 is a challenge for you, I’ve got something that is going to BLOW YOUR MIND – it is so incredible, I can hardly keep a lid on it.  More to come soon!

It’s Your Time – What Are You Going to Do?

 

When it was your time to make a move, to take a leap, or to go for what you wanted, have you ever froze?

One of my earliest memories of that happening to me was being chosen to go on stage for the live children’s television show called the “Bozo Show.”  Bozo was a clown, who made us all laugh with fun and games played on his show.  One of the games played was called Bozo Buckets.  That was the game I was called on stage to play.

Bozo buckets is played by having each contestant line up in front of a row of buckets.  The buckets start just a few inches from under your feet and then get further and further away from you.  Each participant tries to get a ball into each bucket, trying to progress further and further down the line.   The game is set up so everyone wins at least one prize because the first bucket is nearly impossible to miss.  The goal is to become the “Grand-Prize Winner” being the one who gets a ball in the furthest bucket.

I was just a wee-little thing, maybe five or six years old.  I remember being lined up with other kids and a huge audience staring at us all.  Suddenly it was my turn.  There in front of me, nearly under my feet, was the first bucket.  Before I knew what was going on I was handed a ball and immediately threw it.  No focus, no aim, just a throw. And….I completely missed the bucket.

Now let me reiterate the fact that NO ONE misses the first bucket – not even two or three year olds.  It was that easy.

What happened?  I froze.

In a matter of nano-seconds, a part of my inner world was shattered. Bozo buckets is my first memory of shame.  No one shamed me, per say, that I remember.  What I remember is my own sense of disappointment and feeling not good enough.  I blew it!

This little girl who blew the bozo buckets has stayed with me unconsciously for a very long time.  She’s the part of me that easily got hurt about not being enough.  She’s also the part of me who tried extra hard not to disappoint, to prove my worth, and to be a source of pride.

The fact is, she is still with me.  The difference is she is no longer my shadow.  I am conscious of her now.  She still shows up as my fears, my uncertainties, and my doubts.  My job is to recognize her calling and to address her needs from love rather than fear.

We all have moments of being scared of our own shadows that cast self-doubts.  Sometimes these self-doubts show up as not feeling good enough to claim what we really desire, and hold onto the belief that your dream is possible.  Other times, the shadow appears as a sense of uncertainty about what the future holds for you.  Your unconscious fears get triggered, which holds you back from the full freedom of being you.

We have always had the choice as to whether to believe in our Empowered Selves over our small selves.

Making your Empowered SELF front and center in your life is crucial now more than ever!

As I stated at the end of 2011, 2012 is a year of letting go.  Let go of old ways of viewing yourself, of habits that no longer serve you, of tolerating less than what your heart desires for you to have in all areas of your life.

Now, prior to our shift into 2013, is an opportunity: an energetic portal that is about supporting you to shift out of unconscious fear and awaken to the greater good, power, and love that exists within you and within the world.

This is your time: a time of creating a new inner grid from which you navigate your life and the great news is that doing so is easier than you think.

Don’t allow your small self to ignore how important an inner shift is needed.

Let me show you what I have learned, so you can utilize this momentous time of awakening to greater love to nourish and fuel you and the special creations you were born to share.

Join me for a live online seminar on 12/12/12 at 12pm Central

by signing up at www.welcomingtheshift.info

And if you know others who are ready to increase self-compassion and enhance their natural vibrancy, please pass this information along so they too can join us as well.

Shifting to Greater Love Together,

 

PS: For those of you near the Milwaukee area, come for a special in-person event at Feronia Wellness this Saturday, Dec 8th beginning at 1pm.  Amazing teachers are coming together to share how to Embrace the Shift!

Enjoy mediation, teachings, and a sound healing concert.

For more information, click here.

 

 

How to Approach a Complaint from LOVE!

Whenever we complain, it is because we are experiencing a level of dissatisfaction about a situation.  Our sense of dissatisfaction occurs when a situation is creating stress, complications, or problems.  Through complaining, we are hoping to be heard and ultimately to address a deeper, unconscious need of being seen, recognized, and valued.   Hence, the real reason we complain is when we don’t feel our needs are being adequately honored.

 

When you are able to recognize how a situation is making you feel dishonored, you are able to voice your complaint from an empowered standpoint rather than lack.  Most people, unfortunately, do not feel as if their voice matters, which makes their complaints ineffective.  When you don’t feel empowered, whether that is at work or in a relationship, you don’t offer strategies to change the situation.  From a place of unconscious disempowerment is while you’ll turn to making snide comments, gossip, or just plain being rude.  These acts of disempowerment are your ego’s way to try to reclaim power, which of course not only doesn’t work, but also reinforces your sense of powerlessness.

 Approaching Your Complaint from an Empowered Stance

When you approach a complaint from an empowered stance, you recognize the benefit in creating a change for everyone involved and you are able to voice those advantages to others.  When you are truly connected to the advantages this has for the overall good, you are able to present yourself with greater confidence as well as compassion.  You are able to look someone in the eye because you have the clarity for a better vision. At the same time, you are open to understanding where others are coming from as well.  From this stance, you may encounter new information that allows you to recognize what changes you could make as well.  Ultimately, this leads to more effective communication and connection.

 

In order to ensure you are addressing a complaint from an empowered stance, be cognizant of timing.  First, make sure you are able to respond rather than react to your own feelings.  When you react, you come from a place of lack and powerlessness, which shows up as blame.  On the other hand, when you take a step back, you are able to respond to your feelings.  By choosing to respond from an empowered stance, you are able to recognize how your feelings are guiding you to take action toward changing the circumstances.  Rather than taking out the situation on another (regardless of how involved they are in creating that circumstance), your empowered stance recognizes this as on opportunity to cause a mutually beneficial change.  The situation then automatically shifts from complaining and blaming another, to a discussion in which you claim responsibility for your needs at a deeper level.

 

Secondly, you are going to have better results by also being aware of timing for those whom you are approaching about a complaint.  If they seem flustered or overwhelmed, save broaching the subject for a time when they can really listen to you.  If this is something that is pressing, you can state to the person “I need to talk to you about something that is very important.  My sense is that now may not be a good time.  Can you give me a time today when you can take a few minutes to sit down and have a ten minute discussion?”  This approach lets the other person involved know that you are thoughtful of both their feelings and their time, which leads to them being more receptive to what you have to share.

 

The bottom line is your complaints matter!  Even if they do not feel received from another, even when you approach them from an empowered place, they matter.  The reason is because this information about you not feeling heard, seen, or validated is important for YOU to take in about what decisions you need to make.  Rather than look outside yourself for validation, see how this situation is guiding you to validate yourself from within first and foremost.  From this place of inner validation, you gain the certainty about what next step is for your highest good, as well as those involved, and can respond from empowered love rather than fear or lack.

Should you currently be having a challenge with a certain area where your needs aren’t being met, I encourage you to join my upcoming online seminar The Keys to Emotional Mastery.  It is often when you have issue with another, that you are being given an opportunity to access more of your truth and evolve.  It is also where we often get stuck.  Join this FREE gathering so you too can learn how your feelings are guiding you to become more aware of your inner truth and wisdom.  Register here: www.keystoemotionalmastery.com/

Live Fearless – Choose Love,

Michelle

 

PS:  I would love to hear about your complaints.  Do you allow yourself to complain or bite your tongue?  Have you approached your complaints from love or fear, now that you are able to look back at them?   Would it also be helpful for me to cover how not to take complaints or criticisms directed toward you so personally??  Keep me posted and share your thoughts below!

 

How to Get Off the Emotional Roller Coaster

In the last couple of months, I have been fortunate to do some travel that’s been all about FUN! One of those trips was shortly after my book launch where my husband and I got away to Old Quebec -sans kids!! Needless to say we had a blast. We were thrilled to get away to a French speaking land where croissants and cappuccinos were found around every corner.

One of our adventures was traveling to the Montmorency Falls. We were told this was about 8 miles from our hotel and were lent bikes to make the trek. “Just go up to the market and follow the trails,” we were directed. Little did we know there would be multiple trails and with little French under our belts, we went the wrong way. This made our 16 mile round-trip ride turn into a 30 mile adventure.

Although I was exhausted by the end of it, I was filled with appreciation for two main reasons. The first was being able to see even more of the country than we planned (especially the exquisite falls) and the second was recognizing how much easier it was to navigate the adventure without kids in tow.

 

As much as we love them (here they are on their first day of school), I know enough that my kids would not have appreciated the length of the ride and would not have hidden their disappointment.

This reminded me of how often we are not just dealing with our own emotions. Our feelings are impacted by those around us and how they are feeling in the moment as well. Just one challenge can stir the pot. With the multitude of challenges you can encounter in any one day, it is easy to find on one of those more challenging days that you find yourself feeling as if you are living on an emotional roller coaster.

My point is feelings happen. When you find yourself on that emotional roller coaster, check out my video this week on how you can get off quickly and easily:

 

Please share the wealth and spread to the message of love to those you know who are caught in the ups and downs of life!

Live Fearlessly – Choose Love,

Sadness to Vibrancy?

The Soulful Impact of 9/11

The pain and horror of Sept 11, 2001 still resides within our psyche because the actions did not honor human life.  This indiscriminate loss of life was based upon fear – fear of loss of power, fear of loss of control, and fear of not being heard or seen, just to name a few.  Although this act of terrorism caused horrific pain and suffering, there was another unexpected outcome that would result.

The unexpected outcome was that the heart of humanity opened even wider on that day.  We were touched at our core, which made us respond more deeply from love to one another.  Simply put, we became even more fully connected, as we felt for one another, bridging all social divisions.

While we will not forget the tragedy that occurred 11 years ago today, let us also not forget the unity that occurred as well.  The unity reminds us of the core level of relating to one another that is possible when our own fears and judgments are not in the way.

Do you remember how much love was pouring out of you for your family and friends?  Do you remember how strangers didn’t feel so distant or disconnected from you?  Do you remember how trivial other aspects of your life seemed?

You knew on that day how nonsensical it was to hold onto a grudge any longer, no matter how right you felt you were.  You stopped being so hard on yourself because you saw the fragility and gift of life.  You began to question how you could make a bigger difference in the world.

In other words, you lived from your soul.

Eleven years later, are you still living at that deep level of connection with others, living at your fullest purpose and celebrating life?

If you are like me, you have moments when you are living aligned with your true, authentic, spiritual self.  You also have plenty of moments were you get caught up in the demands of work, or relational dramas in your life.

Here’s the good news: when you do get off your spiritual path, you have an innate system alarming you.  This system is otherwise known as your negative feelings.

In the past, we have judged our negative emotions, as bad, weak, wrong, or annoying.  Little did you know that when you had this judgment against how you felt, you were creating a chasm between yourself and your inner wisdom.  Little did you know you were responding from fear.

When you respond from fear within yourself, you are bound to unconsciously respond to others from fear as well.  Your fear shows up as judgments, blame and criticalness.

One major example of this is how divided the US political system is.  Do your political views reflect anger and frustration coming from your ego?

Here’s the test:

Can you see the other party you aren’t affiliated with as one in the same as you?  Are they or are they not just as caring and concerned as you?  Can your soul self accept that another’s cares and concerns (although different) also comes from love, just as your cares and concerns do?

Did I hit a nerve asking you those questions?  If so, that is good information because that nerve is your ego.  Your ego is where your unconscious fears remain hidden from you, yet get played out in the world.

Your negative feelings, when understood from love rather than fear, is what allows you to wake up to your unconscious fears.  Being able to recognize where your fear exists allows you to see where love is ready to expand within you.

Negative feelings challenge each of us to awaken to more of our truth and love,

while the ego wants you to stay safe feeling right.

Until we can approach each other from the same level of respect, NOTHING and NO-THING will change.  Yet to respect one another, you must first respect yourself.  In other words, in order to unify the whole, you must first unify the self.

Self-unification begins by reclaiming what has been shamed, considered weak or wrong and recognizing how it is meant to support you to claim more love from within yourself.  When you are able to recognize the love emanating from within you at this level, you will see the same love in others even when they are buying into the illusion of separation, judgment and blame.  And from this perspective of love, you can be a true agent of change: whether that is within your marriage, family, friends, community, nation or world.

Sept 11th is a day that reminds us how insidious fear can be.  It is each our individual responsibility to become aware of our fears, even (and especially) when it is challenging to do so.  With this awareness, you gain choice, the choice of love.

By love, let me explain what I mean.  “This truth-filled love isn’t about telling you what you want to hear, or making you falsely believe that everything will be just dandy regardless of how you do or don’t act….Neither saccharine nor mean-spirited, the guidance you receive from this higher consciousness is wholly loving, yet clear and straight to the point regarding how you are being called to respond to your life.” (From F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love, Turn Your Negative Feelings Into Your Greatest Allies).

We are each being called to relearn how to live on and with the Earth.  To do so, we must “reawaken our feminine emotional awareness so we can communicate with the higher octaves of reality.” (From Last Cry – Native American Prophesies & Tales of the End Times). Feminine emotional awareness is the shift from pushing against to receiving our feelings and their innate gifts.

Let this day be an awakening as to why it is integral to recognize where fears exists so we can make conscious effort to instead live with more love.  Only when we can make this internal shift back to love, unity and peace, will the same be reflected in our world.

Live Fearlessly – Chose Love,

A portion of all book sales from Aug 11th- Sept 11th will benefit charities of 9/11 Families.

Go to www.feelthebook.info & begin to make a deeper emotional shift from fear to love!

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How to Choose Joy

What is joy to you?  Is it going about your day with more lightness and presence?  Is it having daily opportunities to experience belly-laughter?

 

Most of us tend to carry too much on our shoulders, which takes away from the potential of joy within us.  Yet the potential of joy is always there.  If you desire more joy in your life, this means you have to consciously make some choices to bring this potential within you forward.

 

One of the best ways is to get to the core of what exactly is weighing on you.  What are you carrying?  Go ahead and make a list.

 

Now ask yourself how does it feel to be carrying your load?  What emotions come up for you?

 

Underneath everything that you are feeling, my guess is that a part of you feels sad.  This part of you feels sad for carrying so much emotional weight.  But wait, there is more!

 

Your empowered self is using your sadness as an indicator that you are buying into false beliefs and thoughts.  You then take action based on those thoughts and beliefs, which ultimately don’t serve your highest good.  The result is you are robbed of some of your joyful potential.

 

Bingo!  This information revealed by your sadness is crucial to your joy.

 

Why?  Because knowing what is at the core of your sadness allows you to choose differently.  This is how you learn to choose joy over the lies your small self/ego tell you.  And this is why it is so important for you to listen to your sadness, (or any other feeling for that matter), because doing so actually empowers you.

 

Gone are the days when you try to free yourself from negative feelings, because you know as well as I do that what you resists persists.  No, your empowered self wants to get to the core of what it is that you need to create more joy.

 

Joy is an internal creation. 

 

Your actions, thoughts, and beliefs can either fan your internal spark of joy or dampen it.  Listening to your sadness from your empowered self grows your joy.  Listening to your sadness from your small self smothers your internal flame.

 

Here’s the incredible news – you knowing that empowerment and love exist in your negative feelings means you are already on the path to greater joy.  The reason is because even if you have a bad day, which we all do, your sadness will be a reminder of how crappy you feel when you choose those small self beliefs.

 

I am not saying that making that choice away from your small self belief system will always be easy.  Yet, it is exactly the potential of your joy within you telling you that those beliefs no longer serve you.  If you think of your sadness similar to the yin symbol(the dark side of the yin yang symbol), you’ll see that at the core of all the darkness is light.  It is the same with each of your negative feelings, at the core is love.

 

So even though a part of you is used to the weight on your shoulders, if you listen to your feelings, you will reconnect to your inner spark.  Your inner spark is trying to guide you back to joy by signaling to you through your negative emotions that this load doesn’t need to be carried in the same way, if even at all, anymore.

 

To choose joy, you listen to whispers of your inner spark.  To get to those whispers, you’ll have to consciously choose to hear past the racket of your small self saying things like you don’t matter or you aren’t good enough.  In that moment, choose to commit to whisper rather than the small self hullabaloo.

 

Regardless of what your small self is telling you about why your sad, what your empowered self is signaling to you is that you are ready to bring in more of your light into your life.  To get there, your sadness slows you down so you can reflect on: What do I really want out of life? What are  my inner self’s needs?  When you follow the responses to those questions, that is when you are recommitting to you and to living In-Joy.

 

We get used to how much light we allow into our lives.  Your sadness is indicating you are ready, willing and able to live with greater light, love and joy.  Thank your small self for making it so crystal clear what path feels better.  With this gratitude you open yourself to expand to greater joy within you!

 

In-Joy & Gratitude,

 

 

Want to learn the empowering message to each of your negative feelings?  Now you can with my new book F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love, Turn Your Negative Feelings Into Your Greatest Allies. 

Pre-Order your copy at www.feelthebook.info

 

 

Are You a Giver or Receiver?

Happy Summer Solstice!

Many of us fall into giving of ourselves day in and out.  The summer solstice reminds us that we are to open our arms, hearts and souls to receive.  Receive and take in the light and the beauty that surrounds you and that is within you.

The increased light beckons us outside.  You naturally yearn to play more, relax and have fun!  The summer solstice and the light of the sun is calling us to nurture our souls.

At the same time, there is a paradox to the summer solstice, because the length of sunlight will continue to diminish after this day.  This is to remind us our time to receive the deep soul nourishment is NOW.

I know nowadays society keeps us constantly going and giving.  My new book F.E.E.L.: Turn Your Negative Feelings Into Your Greatest Allies is due out early this fall.  I am still working.  Yet, the summer solstice is my reminder to pull the reigns so I can take in rather than continue to give out.

You’ve heard the phrase “lazy days of summer” right?  Can you allow yourself that treat to be lazy?  It can be a challenge when there is such a negative connotation to that word?  We’ve learned to instead box ourselves off in air conditioning so we can still remain productive.

These “lazy” days of summer are your opportunity to refuel to support you to serve at your highest level.  Allow yourself to be passive – yes passive!

I know the word passive may give some of you the heebie-jeebies because we are so used to being the ones that do, give and make things happen.  Yet, how are you to become a good receiver if you don’t learn to allow your needs to be met outside of you.  Being a receiver, you hold the space to attract, allowing your needs to come to you.

There is a balance we need between giving and receiving.  Most of us tend to lean toward doing a lot of giving. Yet women are natural receivers.  Allow the summer solstice to let go of the illusion of control of your ego’s incessant need to get everything done.  Soon enough fall will be here, the days grow darker, and you will again feel a natural drive to put out more energy.

This summer can you let go a little bit more and still trust your needs will be met?  When in doubt, look up to the sun, open your arms wide, feel your heart open and allow the distractions of the physical world to release.  Witness the ego attachment dissolve and reunite with the joy within your soul.

Your soul is waiting for your permission to say YES to the the fullest, brightest version of you – that’s what the summer solstice reminds us is naturally available not thru doing but being!

So how about it?  How are you going to say YES to your being even more than last summer?  Let’s hear it and inspire others with your sharing!

With Bright Blessings,

Michelle

Your #1 Tool to Support Your Inner Transformation

Remember at the beginning of the year how I said 2012 was a year of letting go?  How is that going for you thus far?  Are you experiencing some emotional depths as well as the highs?

If you are in the process of transformation – your answer is a resounding yes!  Emotional highs and lows is what transformation feels like.  Your emotions bring you head on with your fears in order for you to make a profound choice.   Are you going to stay in the safety of who you are right now or are you going to share more of yourself in love.

Let me be clear that there is absolutely nothing wrong with where you are.  You don’t need to “strive” to be anything more than who you authentically are.  The emotions you experience are there to support you to do just that, experience your true self emanating the love that naturally comes within you.  In other words, your negative feelings are your natural indicator telling you there is more love within you ready to be experienced, felt and seen.

You see, there comes a point when the love within you cannot bear to stay trapped inside any longer.  It must come out and be expressed more fully.  This shows up as negative feelings challenging you with your career, relationships, money, health, you name it – ALL SO YOU CAN EXPERIENCE MORE OF THE LOVE THAT IS WITHIN YOU!

To experience more of the love within you, you have to be awoken to when you are unconsciously responding from a place of fear.  That is what your negative feelings are there for – to support you to recognize when you are responding from fear rather than love.

Your authentic essence is signaling to you through your negative feelings, saying: “Come on, you are ready to experience more of the love within you.  I know it is scary to let go of this illusion of safety your fear brings.  Trust me, how good you will feel in the long-term, when you feel more clear and certain about the unique expression of the love that resides within you.”

I know change and letting go of old patterns, beliefs and thoughts can be tough.  It can be tough to switch from struggling with your negative emotions to actually recognizing the loving energy coming through them.  Yet what choice do we really have?  All we really have to choose from is love over fear as much as possible.

Sometimes I choose fear.  Thanks to my negative feelings, I don’t stay there too long.  My negative feelings remind me that in choosing fear, how uncomfortable and painful it is.

So how do you choose love when you are wrapped up in your own fears?

You remember this challenge you are experiencing isn’t really about you on a spiritual level.  This challenge is about you being able to impact others with your unique expression of love – an expression that can only come from you.  More importantly, your unique expression of love is NEEDED by others, whether that is your family, the company you work for, your community.  The point is you don’t know who your love will touch, nor do you need to know.  You are just being called to share more of it each and every time you experience a negative feeling.

You being your unique expression of love isn’t about being lovey-dovey per-say.  All it is about is getting clearer about who you truly are, what you came here to do and you valuing this deepest truth so it more fully solidifies within you.  When your knowingness of the love within you is unwavering, you feel free.

With love for you as you open yourself up to the amazing love within you-

Michelle

PS: I really do want to hear how your transformation process is going this year.  Share your comments below or email me at support@michellebersell.com.

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