When you allow your inner guiding to lead you, you are trusting in yourself. The more you trust yourself, the greater confidence you feel.
It makes sense then why so many struggle with confidence. You see your Inner Wisdom is always leading you to act from your highest , truest self. Yet doing so doesn’t feel safe to your friend, your ego.
Your ego’s job is to keep you safe so you don’t stick your neck out there only to look like a fool or have something bad happen to you. Your ego is the protector of your unconscious shame that you still carry.
We don’t like to admit that this shame is still happening. How on earth can it be that shame still exists? Haven’t you done enough inner work to knock out all the shame once and for all?
Nope – you see there is no such thing. All that shame is just an illusion we hang onto as we grow. And yet each time we step into more fully owning and showing all aspects of ourselves, the illusion appears in order for us to consciously choose love over fear.
When you can address your emotional pain from love, you can recognize that what is happening is that your Inner Wisdom is guiding you to go outside your norm and your ego is manipulating you to remain within your current comfort zone.Your ego says “What are you doing? You can’t do this. If you do this, you won’t get your needs met.”
What your ego is trying to tell you is that if you follow your inner wisdom, if you trust your inner guidance, things won’t work out. So get back into your box (aka your comfort zone), rather than be a fuller expression of your true self).
To make matters worse, your ego taunts you not just before you are considering stepping outside your comfort zone but after as well – just to keep you in check!
What I am really good at is sensing what you are resisting, even though you have no idea that you are resisting anything at all. I am super sensitive to your inner tensions and the parts of you that are ready to emerge to serve you because of all of my own inner work I do.
Being able to see what you don’t even realize you are resisting and bringing that shame to the surface is what creates a BIG BREAKTHROUGH!
So what are you waiting for??
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The process to gaining confidence is making the ego’s game conscious. What you need to do is keep reaffirming why it isn’t worth it to you to remain in your comfort zone and how the illusion is the comfort zone is safety (but it is a slow death of non-change).
If you would like support with doing this deep but so-worth-it-in-the-end inner work, now is your time because the $100 savings is ending tomorrow. (Please note: This is a savings of $200 off the original price and thousands of dollars from working privately with me, yet you still get one-on-one time.) It won’t get better than this, so don’t wait any longer!
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I look forward to uncovering your unconscious resistance and creating real change in our next Big Breakthrough Forum scheduled for Monday June 24th 9:30pm Eastern/8:30pm Central/6:30 pm Pacific!
With Massive Love,
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With Massive Love,
I hate myself
I am boring – so f*cking boring
Did I say I hate myself – yes, because…
I am so lazy – F*cking lazy, still in my pj’s and ranting rather than doing my real work.
I am boring.
I am boring.
Now I start to laugh, a small chuckle.
Come on ego is that it? Is that all you got?
“You are a Fraud,” my ego tells me.
“I know,” I reply.
I know I try to hide these aspects of myself.
I don’t want others to know the self-hatred is STILL there.
Ahh, and there it is RELIEF! No more hiding.
Suddenly, I feel an internal rush. I am overcome with, (you won’t believe this), SELF-LOVE!
Here’s the thing: When your ego gets worked up -
Honey, you are on the verge of a BREAKTHROUGH!
This is why, while I don’t love what my ego was telling me when it’s try to squash, I mean protect me – I know I am being guided to even GREATER LOVE!
And I absolutely love the power that I felt racing within me when my ego, who was trying to control me, becomes more fully exposed.
Our egos don’t want you or I to go through being judged by others for showing all aspects of ourselves. It wants you and I to hide those less than shiny sides.
I get it, me exposing this side of me will scare the crap out of some people. But then they won’t be the people to be aligned to do this inner work at this time.
When you are ready to do this internal work, you may be scared of your ego, just like I initially am, when it flares up in such a hostile manner. Yet, deep down you’ll know it is worth bringing to the surface. You will know it is worth doing because you will be experiencing either negative feelings or a sense of dissatisfaction that will tell you, this is your time to go deeper within.
This is your signal that you are ready for a breakthrough!
Being able to hear your ego’s racket every so often is a great sign for two reasons. One, you being able to hear your ego every so often means you aren’t drowning out it’s noise with food, alcohol, drugs, work, drama etc… Second, you being able to hear your ego means you are challenging yourself to stop hiding, get outside your comfort zone, and explore more of your potential!
The truth is, as painful as our ego can be, you don’t want to get rid of your ego. It is here to protect you until you are ready to do this intense work. The gift is, when you are ready to see your ego in this manner, you’ll feel your courage wash over you, as more of the truth of who you truly are is reveal and reintegrated into you.
When I decided I was going to look at my ego square on, I thought my ego was going to go on endlessly for hours, maybe days. The reality was, greater love was revealed in less than five minutes. More importantly, a core shift occurred through this revealing, that will not allow the same type of hiding to continue to occur.
Here is your power: Get your ego out of your head and put it on paper. Start to see how your ego doesn’t makes sense. In just a few minutes, you’ll start to see how boring your ego is too.
When I saw me ego in action, I laughed to myself, even though my ego was stating some pretty mean things. Yet, as soon as I saw what the ego was trying to hide and stopped buying into the shame, I was FREE! And this lead to some serious happy dancing!
The ego’s power over you remains when you try to resist those aspects of yourself that you shame.
I invite you to join me in putting an end to your unconscious or conscious shame by joining me in my Big Breakthrough Forum. (Find out more about it here.)
This is your opportunity to decide what is your best way to learn about greater love. Are you best learning that love comes through only some aspects of self and life that are considered good? Or do you want to learn about love from someone who sees love in the darkness, hatred, and shame?
I am a teacher that is not afraid of doing the spiritual work on our human aspects of self. It is our human aspects that help us delve more deeply into our own Divine Selves. I don’t mess around with this because this is SOUL WORK. This is the inner piece you need to be working on for your soul to feel FED, JUICY, & ALIVE!
I believe it is for this reason that other healers and teachers have come to me to do this last inner piece, even though they already help others significantly. The truth is the more you radically bring love to you, the more of you that you have to give.
That ego balking is just to show you and I where there is even more love within us waiting to be revealed and shared. What we want is for this revealing to be an ongoing process because then more of your joy, gifts, and ways to serve continue to deepen within you.
I hope you join me, because space is small to do this intensive work.
Find out more about getting in depth in this process here:
Here’s to you shining more brightly, as your dark side becomes exposed, loved, seen in it’s full truth, and then reintegrated as an integral aspect of you that no longer needs to hide!
With Massive Love,
When I was young, I remember having a sense of not completely belonging. There was just aspects about what I was being taught about the world that seemed strange to me and, honestly, didn’t make sense. But I was told these were the rules on how the world worked.
Unfortunately, I found ways to try to make my square peg self fit into the round hole. Of course, I never truly fit in. I only found ways to try to blend in and belong.
Those aspects of myself that seemed weird, off, or just too complicated for the rest of society were stuffed away somewhere deep within me. My thought was without these aspects being so apparently a part of me, I would finally fit in. I thought that is when I’ll feel the sense of love, joy, and belonging I always wanted.
Did this strategy work??
NOPE! Of course, it couldn’t. My uniqueness – the part in each of us that makes us RADIATE - remained hidden.
It has been quite the journey to recover these aspects of myself. What I learned along the way is that if you’ve ever felt you were different, unique, special, off-the-wall, too much, too sensitive, or any combination of the aforementioned, you have the tendency to hide. And even though, there is so much more of you that you now see, accept, and love about yourself, there could very well be deeper aspects that remain unconsciously buried.
This was the case for myself and every single person I have worked with thus far. There is always more that remained hidden because we’ve learned to unconsciously hold back. That is why, at times. you feel like you are good at creating a fulfilling life and other times, you feel like you’ve got a kink in your internal hose that won’t allow all of your gifts to flow and be seen.
What I realized was that to uncover these unconsciously buried aspects (that are absolutely necessary to create your desires in your reality, as well as feel inner peace and joy), you need a different MO.
It just so happens that the different MO I am talking about is utilizing exactly what the norm has told us to reject – our feelings, especially our negative ones. But there is so much conditioning about how negative emotions are weak or block you. The reality is it is the rejection of negative feelings that keeps you blocked. Your negative feelings are simply a microcosm of the aspects of yourself that you believe keep you from having your desires met.
Now I don’t expect you to be able to undo this conditioning automatically. It took me years of clinical training, personal work, and spiritual intervention for me to do so. All of which occurred in order for me to teach you to know how to deeply belong within yourself so you can continue to step into your highest version of self and truth .
As you can guess, this is no small task, but one that I personally love to guide people through because the changes experienced are so freakin’ rewarding!
If you are ready to re-condition yourself to experience every aspect of yourself as love, especially those aspects of yourself you didn’t even know you were judging, shaming, or hiding, then I would like to invite you to my Big Breakthrough Forum.
If you are looking for:
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As a part of the Big Breakthrough Forum, you and I will gather twice a month, along with a few other like-minded members. The whole point of this forum is to remain intimate in order for you to have personal time with me to unravel where aspects of the real you remain hidden or not in full expression.
To be a part of the forum, I ask all members to go in depth into the F.E.E.L. process through my F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Home Study Program. This program, on it’s own, creates major breakthroughs, where quite honestly, you may not even need my expert guidance. Still, I know for me and perhaps this goes for you too, that when learning something new, it is wonderful to have someone take you by the hand to show you the way. With the F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program, you’ll be given the in depth how to’s, and with the Big Breakthrough Forum, you’ll get the personal application to ensure your success!
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It would be such an honor to uncover even more of your special uniqueness that is ready to be more fully revealed and expressed!
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Did you know that what keeps you away from your desires starts with unconscious patterns within you?
These patterns are to blame for keeping you in the same place, with tunnel vision to the same perspectives that lead you to the same behaviors where change doesn’t happen.
These patterns are also to blame for when you feel like no matter how hard you try, nothing changes.
This video below will support you to see how your patterns are inhibiting you to create different choices. Using F.E.E.L., you’ll see how you can reclaim your power to breakthrough those non-serving patterns so you can create greater joy – and who doesn’t want more of that??
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I would love to hear any patterns that come up for you as you work this process. Please share below!
This week, in particular, is Children’s Mental Health Awareness. For this reason, I wanted to focus on how we can teach our kids more empowered ways to address their emotions. If you don’t have kids, don’t worry, these strategies will work on you too, as well as others who may not even be keen on expressing their feelings.
Okay, before we begin, take a few deep breaths. Here come the statistics, which demonstrate the deep need to apply emotional well-being techniques with children.
Stress is impacting our children as young as 8 years old. They are reporting that they experience physical and emotional health consequences often associated with stress. While nearly 70 percent of parents of teens and tweens say their stress has little or no impact on their children, only 14 percent of children report their parent’s stress doesn’t bother them.
Psychologist Katherine C. Nordal, the APA’s executive director for professional practice, said in a statement “It’s critical that parents communicate with their children about how to identify stress triggers and manage stress in healthy ways while they’re young and still developing behavioral patterns.” Nordal added, “If children don’t learn these lessons early on, it could significantly impact their physical health and emotional well-being down the road, especially as they become adults.”
Given these statistics, APA Chief Executive Officer Norman B. Anderson PhD states “America is at a critical crossroads when it comes to stress and our health.”
Okay, it’s over, you can breath again. Now what I don’t want you to do is start berating yourself that you haven’t handled your kids stress or emotions well. The truth is we are in a huge learning curve regarding emotional well-being. Emotions have just found their way to becoming “public” in the last few decades. This has been progress compared to the years where feelings were not talked about at all. We are now just learning the ways to address and understand our feelings. This is our part of the learning curve and is something that, if we get, we can pass down to the next generation.
This leaves us to answer how we can address our own feelings, as well as other’s feelings from an empowered approach.
If you know my work, you know the core process I teach for you to gain emotional empowerment in the moment a negative feeling arises. If you are new to my work, sign up for my free training kit here:
My F.E.E.L. Training Kit will give you the core concepts to apply an empowered approach to your feelings.
One of my most successful techniques with children and adults (myself included) is to use the You are Right No Matter What Technique.
Here is the You are Right No Matter What Technique in a nutshell:
This technique is about validation whatever feeling your child ( or yourself, or your spouse) is experiencing. This technique also allows for expansion of perspective. The bottom line to this technique is whatever you/she/he is feeling you/she/he has a right to feel.
What I would like you to begin to teach yourself and others is that within each feeling you experience you have a choice between an easy response versus an empowered response. BOTH ARE RIGHT. Neither are wrong. It is just that one will lead you to feel better more quickly.
The easy response is the path we choose when our fear leads us. It is the response that feels hurt or blame. This easy response is called “easy” because it is typically an automatic response that occurs with negative feelings.
The empowered response is usually a more challenging response but is one that will lead us to a greater sense of happiness, fulfillment, and inner peace. The empowered response challenges us to find our power in any given circumstance. The empowered response guides us to step into more of our truth.
Now let’s take this to a real life example that you could use with your child. Let’s say your child comes home feeling sad because someone picked on them. They are right to feel sad because it doesn’t feel good to be picked on and feel bullied.
The normal response to being bullied is to feel bad about yourself. This is common because what the bully said hit a nerve. The important point to share is that your child is sad because they are agreeing with the bully. This means the real reason why your child is sad is not because of the bully but because they are believing something about themselves that IS NOT TRUE. The truth is they should feel sad when they are believing something about themselves that isn’t true.
Isn’t that great how their feelings are there to protect them from believing in stuff that isn’t true?!?
The empowered choice is to see how they were giving their power away by believing what the bully said. The empowered choice of their sadness is to choose to believe in their truth rather than a lie.
Neither response is wrong. It is simply showing how the empowered choice will make your child feel better sooner.
You can also tell your child how you too sometimes choose the typical reaction at first. Then you remember it is not fun if you stay their long. That is when you choose to respond from a place of making yourself feel better from the inside, by letting go of the lie and coming back to your truth. When you do, the sadness releases automatically because you are no longer believing in something about yourself that is false.
Our emotions are always trying to teach us more about ourselves. If we learn to receive our emotions in an empowered manner, they aren’t so scary or overwhelming. Instead, they simply become a guide, telling us when we are buying into fear rather than love. Teaching this to those you love, reinforces emotional empowerment within you. This is how you gain emotional mastery, which is mastery with rather than mastery over negative feelings.
In my Big Breakthrough Forum, we gather as an intimate group to explore how to gain mastery with rather than over our negative feelings and the results have been astounding. In just the few times we have met, huge insights have come forward, which have led to making big changes in how participants view themselves and live their lives. I will be opening up a few slots for the Big Breakthrough Forum shortly, so you too can begin to have mastery with each and every one of your beautiful, life-affirming feelings. Stay Tuned!
Please give the above technique a try – either on yourself or your child. Let me know how it goes here below.
It is time the world learns that love exists within every aspect of ourselves that our fears want to fill with shame and judgment. Now is our time to bring this gift to our children. In doing so, soon there will be generations of people who honor every aspect of their emotional well-being, as they see their feelings as one of their greatest gifts and strengths!
I, for one, can not wait!
Be Fearless – Choose Love,
What keeps us stuck isn’t the negative feelings that you experience, it is the stories and perspective around our negative emotion. Try this one simple question the next time your negative feelings come up and see how you shift from fear to greater empowerment!
Give it a try and see for yourself!
I would love to hear your comments, feedback and questions.
Be Fearless – Choose Love,
Who’s dreaming about you? Who is meditating to connect with your highest self? Who is there holding your unique vision and guiding you to step fully into your ideal?
Maybe, some of the time, it is you doing this for yourself but what about those moments when you are down, when your faith waivers, or when the tools that once supported you have left you at a plateau? Who can be for you then?
The answer to all of the above is found in my Unrecognizable You Partnership Program, a one-of-a-kind program that guarantees in 6 months you will not to be the same person who started the program.
Are you ready for:
- Your defenses and inner blocks to dissolve?
- People to see and experience you as different?
- Transformation in areas of your life that aren’t working?
- To have ease and joy with who you are?
- More of your gifts, love, and power to come through you?
- A deeper light to shine through your eyes?
How does this happen?
It happens through creating a soul-filled partnership. This partnership is so unique because you’ll have another person, beside yourself, committed to you stepping fully into your truth. This means I am meditating to connect with your highest self in order for information to come forward that you are unaware of and therefore struggle to change. I receive dreams, visions, and intuitive hits about your next steps.
I am also the one who is:
- Present to support you to see your shadows that remain hidden below the surface.
- Calls you out and allow you to see when you are trying to run from your fears.
- Shows you how to address your fears from the empowered stance of love.
- Standing up to your ego on behalf of your highest self, until you remember how.
I am able to do all of this because in the Unrecognizable You Partnership Program, you get unprecedented access to me. This is a partnership where you aren’t limited to how often we meet, because beside your regularly scheduled weekly sessions, you’ll have access to “open office hours” throughout the week. What this means is the moment you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or lost, you schedule extra time with me to ensure your old patterns are transformed!
If you are ready for someone to hold you by the hand to make sure you get out of your unconscious patterns that are holding you back, then I invite you to apply to the Unrecognizable You Partnership Program.
The doors to this program are officially open and you can apply now by filling out this form here:
Because this program involves such deep devotion to your transformation, please note there is a limited amount of partners I can serve at this level and it is intended for those who are willing to invest at a high level of commitment to living your best life.
Have questions? Check out more details about the Unrecognizable You Partnership Program here:
The doors are now open and the only question that remains is -
Will you allow yourself to step into this deep commitment to you and change your life forever?
Don’t waste any more time.
I’m here holding this dream for you!
“Michelle you are angry.” These are the words I heard a few years ago from a medium I had just met. I remember hearing those words and feeling like this session I just signed up for was all wrong. ”This lady is off her rocker!” I thought. She’s got me all wrong. I am happy. My life is good. What in the world would I have to be angry about? I am not at all angry.
Boy was I wrong!
She wasn’t talking about my external self, she was talking about my internal self. In particular, she was describing a part of myself that I have unknowingly and unconsciously stuffed down deep within me.
Here’s the tricky thing – you wouldn’t have noticed my anger on the outside OR the inside. What I mean is, internally, I wasn’t bubbling with anger. There wasn’t any hidden feeling that I was about to explode at any moment. If anything, I would get sad or frustrated that I felt powerless to change a part of my life but angry, not really. Not that I couldn’t express my anger. I could. It just wasn’t an emotion that rarely came up for me.
When the session was over and I had a little bit of time to process what she had said, it hit me like a ton of bricks – I was angry! I had just learned to skip over my anger. Instead, I went right to the sadness or frustration regarding feeling stuck in one particular area that for the life of me, I could not change.
As you know from what I teach about anger, the loving guidance coming from our anger is about owning more of our power. My “skipping over” my anger took away my ability to empower myself to get outside my norm and take the actions I needed to make my desire my reality.
Fast forward years later and now I am doing this work where I can see and feel where in my clients’ bodies emotions are stuck. Guess what I am finding in everyone? You guessed it – ANGER!
The vast majority of my clients were, at first, completely unaware that their anger existed. What I am finding is that anger is like it is a hidden epidemic for most, especially those who have been on a personal growth path for a long time. Yes, you heard me right, ESPECIALLY those of you who are on the path to spiritually grow and evolve.
What you need to be careful of when you are growing & evolving:
Being on this path of personal growth, you have learned how toxic anger is and you work hard not to have anything toxic in your life. The last thing you want to be carrying around is toxic emotions. Having a more positive mindset, you are also pretty darn good getting along just fine with what you have.
The fact for many of my beloved personal growth friends is that you have become too good at focusing on what is working. Even though you have tools and techniques to release the “toxic” feelings, most aren’t listening to why these negative feelings are coming up in the first place. You can’t see how your negative feelings are supporting you to get you outside your comfort zone (aka your safety zone). You just want these feelings gone. Yet, in doing so, you are keeping yourself fenced in to a limited experience of life. Yes, the fenced in area looks beautiful but there is so much more beauty waiting for you to experience outside the protective internal gates, Getting to your full expression of self means reaching a point of internal discomfort with aspects of your life that are no longer serving you or are holding you back from your truth. It is in your negative feelings from love that will bust through any protective walls or fences you have built so you can feel greater freedom, joy, and fulfillment in life.
What I am seeing is that for those of you who, deep down, truly desire to create a change in your life, your essence, unbeknownst to you, is feeling angry, even rage, for two main reasons:
1. Its signals have been ignored too long, and
2. You have so much more of your gifts to share and serve the world, and unconsciously you are holding yourself back.
When you heed the amazing guidance that your anger has to offer, the life you want falls into place easier and faster. The reason is simple: you are no longer acting from fear regarding these feelings and instead acting on your inner wisdom’s guidance!
When you begin to see your anger from love is when you experience tears of gratitude for your anger teaching you that there is even more of your truth, your gifts, your light that are ready to be seen. When you experience gratitude in something that the majority judge as negative, you are able to recognize how loved you are at a profoundly deep level that changes you forever at your core.
- If you are ready to discover that “something” that has been missing in your life….
- If you have tools and techniques that have supported you to grow, but the same tools and techniques are not working for your next level of evolution…..
- If you are ready to get the kink out of your internal hose, so you can truly unleash your best life…..
Then you are ready to partner together in my
UNRECOGNIZABLE YOU PARTNERSHIP PROGRAM
Let me be your sherpa! I know the hurdles, the pitfalls, and the self-doubts you will face and I will be right there with you. I have taken myself and now numerous others from all walks of life on this journey.
Please note: Because of the deep level of partnership I engage in throughout this journey (that is frankly unheard of at this level), I can only take a limited few.
Will you be one of them?
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Be Fearless, Recognize Unconscious Anger, & Experience the Loving Energy to Claim More of YOU!
With love and admiration for your courage,
Trust me when I say, I know how that feels. As much as we say we are okay without this, if we were to be honest, a part of us isn’t.
At one point in my life, I felt really stuck about a desire I deeply wanted in my life. Unbeknownst to me, there was something I was doing that was actually repelling me from my desire rather than making it happen.
Remember your emotions are the fuel to your intentions. If you are judging or trying to get rid of the negative half of your feelings,you are operating from fear rather than love.
If you are at the point where change has got to happen, because you are tired of feeling like you are repelling what you want in one or more areas of your life, I invite you to check out my one-of-a-kind Unrecognizable You Partnership Program here: