Why false perceptions matter

Do you ever find that people have a perception of you that isn’t necessarily true?  People tend to make assumptions about you and your life base on some of the external components to your life.  Do you ever find that you actually want them to believe in that perception they have about you even though it isn’t accurate? I have!

I have learned from experience, however, how something as seemingly harmless as going along with a false perception impacts you.  The impact is unconscious and can have lasting impact.  The reason is because when you go along with a false perception a part of you is hiding – typically hiding from your own shame and judgment.

Allow me to share a recent experience to explain this concept in more detail.  Recently, I was being congratulated by someone I knew fairly well on some recent successes.  They also alluded to the idea that I must be enjoying the financial rewards to my success.  At that moment, I felt a slight twinge.  A part of me so easily could have went with what she was saying by not agreeing or disagreeing and just move along in our conversation.  No harm done right?  Wrong!

What that twinge was about was the fight between my ego and my authentic self.  I knew a part of me wanted her to buy into the false perception that I am currently swimming in the dough!  That was exactly the problem.  Because of my work with emotional consciousness, I knew this was an opportunity for me to recognize that deep within me judgment about my finances existed.  I simply told her that her assumption was not the case.  After our conversation finished was when my inner work began.

Utilizing the tools I teach, I began to play detective regarding what I was judging. Fortunately, I am very fine tuned to my feelings and rather than blow them off, I saw this as a gift that I wanted to claim!  That is the beauty regarding your feelings because they are always available to allow you to expand and grow even more.  Obviously there was more growth for me to do around this topic!

In regard to finances, I have personally grown to understand that my needs and desires are always taken care of, so that wasn’t the issue.  The fear and judgment that came up was in regard to my profession.  I felt shame and embarrassment around the idea that should you (meaning this community) find out about the amount of money I make, you would deem me as no longer credible.  Of course, this is a projection of my own judgments.  The shame is because of my own judgment that exists, even though logically I know it isn’t true.  That is the thing about fears, they aren’t logical.

Even though fears are not completely logical, you will always have others that will fuel your fears.  After discussing this upcoming blog with a few of my peers – coaches, business experts etc.., they told me it was career suicide for me to share my process with you.  I was told that I want others to see me professionally as the image of success.

Image, however, is exactly what I believe hides us from being able to live authentically, freely and more empowered lives.  I know from experience that a part of my potential would be lost should I give into the fear.  So, I choose not to buy into the fear.  I knew that you judge me based on the value of my content, whether it supports you to grow and evolve in your life as well, and not on any image that pretends I don’t have my own process.  In fact, because I do have my own process, I feel that my experiences support me to further understand the traps and ways in which we unconsciously hinder ourselves.

The point of me sharing this with you is not about whether or not I make enough money.  The point is how false perceptions can be an opportunity for you to recognize your fears.    Sometimes your fears jump out.  To consciously grow, however, you want to be a detective to search for what else is waiting within you to evolve away from the ego and into more of your potential.

False perceptions happen all the time because we have the tendency to want people to see us at our best.  You rejoice in sharing the good and blessings that you are able to experience. You need to make sure that you aren’t hiding behind the good in order to remain distant from the judgments and fears within you.

Should you find yourself tempting to hide behind a false perception, use the experience to see how your ego wants you to buy into not being enough for where you are currently at in your life.  This is how shifts begin by not needing what is false to be a part of your identity or self worth.   When you no longer need the illusions of the ego, your ego can let go and make room for creating more of what you desire.    I know this because I have used this process to change many aspects of my life.  The work isn’t always easy but it is definitely worth doing!

Love and Gratitude for YOU!

You know when you have those moments of profound gratitude and appreciation in life?  Well, this morning was one of those mornings for me and what I was feeling profound appreciation, love and gratitude was for you.  I am so honored that you are a part of this community.  With the information overload that we are in, you choose to get one more email, take time out of your day to open it up and read it.  Thank You!

I also want to say that I honor you for the path you are on to enhance your life as well as your continued commitment to your personal evolution.  No one really sees the time, effort and energy you have committed to this part of yourself and it often goes unacknowledged.  I acknowledge you for choosing to expand rather than contract.

What I really feel the connection is between me and you is about expansive energy.  I don’t know your face, we aren’t physically together, yet I feel a connection.  Usually, I try to support people to recognize the expansive energy that is within negative emotions.  After all, it is a part of our human experience that often gets ignored or contorted.

What I sensed today is a need to remember the energy of love that is hard to define, yet exists.  Of course, you know it.  You feel it all the time with your family, friends and nature but what about the love that has no or little physical connection.  The connection we have is different.  There is a small physical component as you see my emails, yet the email is not what our connection is about.  We bond through experiences, feelings, thoughts and the words that celebrate or bring greater understanding to our day to day experiences.  Do we dare call that energy love?  I do!

I just want you to know that I feel your energy as well.  I thank you for the energy, thoughts and love you send my way.

I also want to celebrate the expansive energy within you in all its forms.  Today, may it be a day that you honor yourself for the energy you give to others and all of life without even knowing it.  You are life affirming and it is felt!

Love is in the negative and the positive and it is just up to us to recognize it.  Thank you for choosing me to be one of your humble guides, as I use my own stumbling blocks along the way to share with you the love that is within all that we feel.  We are all meant to be the givers and recipients of love.  The more we are open to that in our lives through all of our connections, the more love expands.  Thank you for allowing my heart to expand by receiving my thoughts, feelings and energy through each email I send your way.

Wishing many continued blessings to awe inspiring you, as you continue to live emotionally conscious and exceptionally well!

The real process of making your dreams a reality

Do you ever feel weighed down, filled with self-doubt or procrastinating?  Good, these are all really good signs that you are on your way to making your dreams happen!  You think I am kidding, I am not.  The truth is that when you go for making a positive shift happen in your life, you are going to run into some internal obstacles.  The reason is that you are being called to expand and share more of yourself in one way or another.

Of course, your ego isn’t going to allow you to claim more of your authentic self and potential without putting up a fight.  As you get closer to taking the next step on your path to claiming potential, you are going to run into self-doubt.  These doubts are going to make you procrastinate and ultimately feel weighted down.

You would think that your goal is to try to get rid of your weighted down feelings and doubts so you can move forward, right?  Wrong!   Making your goal to be getting rid of your negative thoughts and feelings can set you up for an internal battle that you won’t win!  You automatically lose because your energy is being wasted on your ego.

Unfortunately, the vast majority of the self-help tools currently available unknowingly guide you to focus more of your energy and beliefs on your ego rather than your inner truth and power.  Your negative feelings have a more significant meaning that goes beyond the ego, if and when you learn how to let go of the ego drama.

So how do you let go of the ego drama?

SURRENDER! When you consciously choose to surrender to your ego, you aren’t engaging in the battle.  Doing so consciously allows you to listen to what messages your ego is sharing with you.  Now you have those messages out in the open and you see how either ridiculous or repetitive and non-serving they are.  Once the ego feels it has been heard, your authentic voice will have room to share the necessary insight that will support you to move forward.  Then it is up to you to choice which message is going to serve you to obtain your dream.

Rather than surrender, what most people do is try to dismiss, positive think over or rise above their ego message.  Although it sounds nice, it doesn’t work.  You must consciously choose if you want to do what sounds nice or what will actually support you to move forward.  Doing what sounds nice in this instance is reacting based on the old-world understanding regarding your feelings.  Even though you may convince yourself that your ego has diminished, it is impacting you in more unconscious ways that will keep you internally struggling and stagnant.   Rather than freeing the energy of your ego, you are unconsciously empowering it while all along distancing yourself from the true insight your essence is offering you.

Ask yourself what you are afraid of when it comes to surrendering to your ego and that will tell you the power your ego still holds over you.  The answer is to find internal peace and it begins by surrendering to all aspects of you!  This is how you will be able to truly F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love and more profoundly open yourself to the gifts within you.  When those feelings of doubt creep in, rather than weigh you down, F.E.E.L. will give you the insight you need to move forward.  As you trust and follow your insight, feelings that once weighed you down shift to bring you more energy and vitality toward life.  In doing so, your dreams become a reality!

It is an honor to have you join the evolution to live emotionally conscious by realizing how F.E.E.L.: Feel Every Emotion as Love is life changing! If you would like to know how to apply F.E.E.L. more aptly into your own life, consider my F.E.E.L. Virtual Mastery Program at http://www.michellebersell.com/feel/ (While your ego is telling you I am selling to you, your essence knows it is my passion to teach you to hear the truth to your emotions & empower your essence.  Let your essence guide you to determine if this is the support you need to move forward by trying the program risk free with a 100% money-back guarantee.)

Here’s to you living emotionally conscious and exceptionally well,